My brother, who disowned me about 7 years ago for reasons unknown to me, just told my mom that he is worried about me not seeing a doctor (not sure if he would even consider a midwife a "medical professional"). He learned of my desire to have a UC from my sister and her husband, who I really haven't talked with much about it either.
My sister is a nurse and the mother of 3 wonderful boys. When she asked me about my birth plans a few months back I wanted to be honest with her, so I told her I was thinking (but not that I was already decided) about having a UC. She of course was not keen on the idea, but she didn't press her opinions on me, she only told me her concerns and told me she wanted to make sure Baby and I are healthy and happy. She is a nurse after all and exposed to a lot of western medicine. I was happy she didn't press the subject (she did talk to my mom once and told her all her concerns and tried to convince my mom not to allow it to happen, of course my mother tells them all that no one can get me to do anything I don't want to do).
So now my brother is telling my mom that he's worried about me and Baby. When she tries to calm his fears by telling him I am a strong woman and I can do it (I do not think there is mention between my mom and brother about UC, just that no doctor or hospital will be involved), he tells her I'm an idiot, there's no way I can have a baby on my own, and he's going to call CPS on me.
His wife is currently pregnant, about 2 weeks further along than I am, also with their first child. He recently sent me a text inquiring about the pregnancy and we had a small conversation about baby stuff, boy or girl, etc. It was really nice, I thought. It had been a long time since we had talked, especially with kind words from him. He texted me again today asking if it's true I'm not planning on having any medical professionals at my birth, he's worried about me and Baby and Mom. I asked him if it was true he was planning a csection because I was worried about his wife and baby being in a place where sick people go when they are diseased. I then went on to tell him that I know he and I are different and I think he has yet to come to terms with that. I gave him some book reading options (Childbirth Without Fear and Ina May Gaskin books) that he might want to read if he is truly concerned about my decisions. I told him that I hope he and his wife have an amazing and beautiful birth, regardless of how different it may be from my own birth. I told him I understand his fears being a father to be and I hope all goes well for him and that I love him dearly.
He tells me I'm in no place to have a child, I don't know anything about responsibility, and he hopes I don't fuck up this kids life if either of us make it through birth.
All of the anger aside (I am still trying to deal with his emotions and fears and hatred; I don't know where any of it stems from and I wish there was something I could to help as even the love I give him seems to get spit back in my face), I am curious if any of you have dealt with this. Does anyone know of any laws that might prevent me from having a UC (I live in Washington State and our midwife laws are awesome! So I am only assuming what I am doing is okay even if frowned upon by the medical community). Can CPS even do anything? I don't think he would actually call them, but of course it's got me worried.
Does anyone have any links for laws by state about birth (I can only find policies that are legal standard at hospitals, but not much on homebirth and nothing on UC).
I am UPing as well, but I see my acupuncturist regularly and she gives me tons of advice and information (she is also my boss so I have yet to discuss UC with her, but I do plan to). I am healthy and have had no issues or concerns. If I did I was go see someone. I am not opposed to transferring during labor if something does go wrong.
Uggg, I know I am making safe and healthy decisions for me and Baby, even if other people don't think I am. I just wish I didn't have to hear their opinions. My head is constantly screaming "Don't these people know babies die in hospitals too!?!?!?!"
I can't help but to think about the joy it will bring me when everything in my labor goes smoothly and I have a healthy, happy, beautiful baby to show all the naysayers. My ego will just want to stick my tongue out at them!