My son just turned 2 a few months ago. I am expecting a baby girl due April 1st. The home-stretch fatigue/insomnia just hit me this week and I feel like a zombie, which I'm sure doesn't help the situation, but lately my toddler is driving me crazy and I'm wondering how I will manage him and a newborn when I'm even more sleep-deprived.
DS has been high-energy/needs since birth and it has been a challenge...up until the last few months, when he has actually started to show some ability to entertain himself here and there, I haven't been able to get much of anything done. He is SUPER social and generally obedient. He loves being out and around other kids. At home, however, he has never been into toys and would much rather get into and scatter household objects throughout our home. Of significance: we moved in to our home 1.5 years ago and since then DH has been renovating our basement by himself, which means I've had to single parent A LOT, especially these last 9 months since finding I was pregnant, since DH ramped up the work down there a lot to try to get it all done. That being said, we both also work FTOH and so when I am home there is a lot to do i.e., cooking, cleaning, getting things prepared for the baby, etc. and I'm also tired! The rest of the house is disorganized chaos due to this reno since we aren't using 1/3rd of our house, so I'm constantly trying to keep the rest of it livable. Despite this, DS still gets a ton of attention from us, co-sleeps with us, etc so I don't worry he is deprived of attention, but I explain this because there often isn't the opportunity to spend weekends out of the house taking him to all sorts of kid-friendly places at this point, which I'm sure would make life easier when we are home.
So, the problems I'm having lately coping with DS is:
1) when DS is home with us on weekends or the occasional vacation/snow day, he will. not. nap. The only thing that works lately is to drive him around, and sometimes that doesn't even work to keep him down once we transfer him in from the car (and then there's that time wasted driving him around). I know the weekends change up his routine, and he doesn't always nap at the sitters, but boy are those days rough, and I haven't even had the baby yet.
2) he demands things ALL DAY. Every 30 seconds. For ex: he wants water, I get it for him, but he doesn't want it in the blue cup but the red one. I'll sit back down, he's finished it and wants more water. He wants to do something, I set it up for him, then it's something else. His attention span is short so if I even have the energy to try to muster up an exciting indoor activity, it lasts 30 seconds but takes me 10 min. to set it up, and then I have another mess to clean up. He goes from one level of the house to the other, taking toys/household objects with him. I try to set boundaries/limits but then I feel like I'm having a power struggle with him all day. I don't yell and I do use some occasional time-outs (for both of us!) and generally he can be a good listener, but on days when he doesn't nap, it feels like I'm constantly fighting against him.
I'm sure a lot of this is normal toddler behavior, but I have no idea how I'm going to manage this with a newborn!
Unfortunately lately to catch a break or to get something done without his fussing I've resorted to more screen time than I'd prefer to use. Thankfully all of the programs/movies are stuff I've chosen and I tend to talk to him while it's on so he's not just starting at a screen, but I feel guilty. If anyone has any ideas to keep my little guy more grounded, or to give me tools to better cope with his active personality, I'd appreciate it!