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My little boy is 21 months old.... I am the first of all my friends too have a child, so I have no one to ask for advise.

I want to find out how do know when your child is ready to start potty training and how on earth do you even begin?

post #2 of 9

Hi Jenni -

I got a potty chair and set it in the front room. I also rented vids like "once upon a potty" and the like...Then we had diaper free days where I just set them on the potty every 15 for 5 until they had a success..Youngest potty learned at 2.

post #3 of 9
You can introduce the potty and what it's for before you or your LO is ready to fully PT. i put one in the bathroom and would plop DD on when I had to go, then slowly introduced it as part of some diaper changes. You can explain what's happening and have the potty be part of life so that when he starts to show signs of readiness to ditch the diapers, the potty will be familiar and not something new and scary. I'm holding off right now with DD because we all have a nasty stomach flu but once she started going dry a bit longer (over an hour) then we had great success with using the potty. I think it's possible to frustrate or burn out kids with frequent potty trips and it's important to step back if you encounter resistance. Hth, good luck!
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Originally Posted by skycheattraffic View Post

You can introduce the potty and what it's for before you or your LO is ready to fully PT. i put one in the bathroom and would plop DD on when I had to go, then slowly introduced it as part of some diaper changes. You can explain what's happening and have the potty be part of life so that when he starts to show signs of readiness to ditch the diapers, the potty will be familiar and not something new and scary. I'm holding off right now with DD because we all have a nasty stomach flu but once she started going dry a bit longer (over an hour) then we had great success with using the potty. I think it's possible to frustrate or burn out kids with frequent potty trips and it's important to step back if you encounter resistance. Hth, good luck!

This.  DD is almost 16mos and has been "using" the potty for almost 2mos now.  She's in no way ready to lose the diapers but first thing in the morning or after dinner it's easy to take her diaper off and plop her on the potty to read a book - she actually asks to be read to on there now.  Because she's always by my side and has been part of my 'potty routine' for a while, she knows all the lingo (diaper, potty, peepee, poop) and will now tell me she's pooping rather than going off and hiding, so it's a step in the right direction where she will eventually tell me BEFORE the poop happens!  Although she has pooped 2x and peed several thus far in the potty. 

post #5 of 9
Check out the 3 day potty training book by Lora Jensen. (can find online) Give it a read and see if it resonates with you. Although my son is a bit older 2.5 & did ask for 'no more diapers' I liked the idea of intensive training. I did alter it a bit and it took 5 days to be fully dry through the day and night. We practiced and went on a little road trip and he did great. I feel confident and trust his ability to tell me, but a super mom is always prepared for the 'ugh' moment...heehee. Now I carry extra bottoms instead of diapers..cracks me up...good luck they're amazing little beings!
post #6 of 9

21 months is young for potty training, especially for a boy (boys are usually ready later).

You can look up the signs of readiness online (sorry I don;t have time to list them)

I wanted to say: most children are ready at some point. You don't see seven year olds walking around in diapers. My son is almost 3 and he knows well about pottying and has used his all of twice. He claims he's not ready but will be soon. I am hoping in summer to use the warm weather for lots of nekkie time and get it going that way. He goes to preschool and sees other kids using the toilet, and we talk about it all the time.

What I think anyone can do, even at your son's age, is just have the potty there, talk about it, read books about it, let him see you go and explain how it's done, offer him the chance to use it and then just wait. I personally am really sick of diapers but even still I will wait at least until, I don't know, age 3 1/2, before I started any real program. I just feel that it's an area that is liable to be rife with stress and power struggles, and from what I hear and have observed with many kids, is that most kids will do it easily and on their own when they're good and ready, which is usually between 2-3. So, IMO, why stress about it?

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I think kids are ready well before they they communicate it & 21 months is not too early for some kids. There doesn't have to be any sort of power struggles or rife whatsoever. I kno many many people who have helped their children much younger than 21 months(all with success and happy experiences) and there is a variety of great books to help parents help kids. Not for one moment did I push or struggle with my son and he is a proud little peacock that can do this all by himself. We all get sick of diapers but that is not the reason for potty training. Some kids do need to start a later and I think if you don't try some kind of something and let your child leed the way you will never actually know if they are ready or not. The 3 day potty book claims the best time for easy success is 22motnhs....
post #8 of 9

My DS is 22 months and we are potty training now using the Oh Crap Potty Training method recommended on this forum by Adorkable.  It's going pretty well!  DS's signs of readiness were:

 

  • awareness of when he's going/gone and communication (he'd announce pee or poop by saying "stink")
  • discomfort with having poop in the diaper and wanting to be changed promptly
  • upset when pee or poop makes a mess on the floor
  • wanting privacy to poop

 

Check out ohcrappottytraining.com.  I'm a believer.
 

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I think kids are ready well before they they communicate it & 21 months is not too early for some kids. There doesn't have to be any sort of power struggles or rife whatsoever. I kno many many people who have helped their children much younger than 21 months(all with success and happy experiences) and there is a variety of great books to help parents help kids. Not for one moment did I push or struggle with my son and he is a proud little peacock that can do this all by himself. We all get sick of diapers but that is not the reason for potty training. Some kids do need to start a later and I think if you don't try some kind of something and let your child leed the way you will never actually know if they are ready or not. The 3 day potty book claims the best time for easy success is 22motnhs....

 

 

Well of course there's EC so really any age you can potty train using that. I know someone who never used diapers ever, so her kids were "potty trained" from day one using EC.

 

I just meant from the people I know, most kids reached potty training on their own around 2-3 years and 21 months seems young IME for a child to be, from their side without any "training" from the parents side, ready. By training I mean using a method or a program, not the things I suggested earlier like talking a lot about it, reading books, those kinds of encouragement, which is not exactly training just a certain focus and encouragement.

 

I know the main reason for potty training isn't about being sick of dipes I just meant in my case, I will not do any proper training programs until I have really had enough, which I assume will be some time in the next year....if my son doesn't by then decide on his own (as I have seen some other kids do) he wants to start using the potty. That is what I meant.

 

I should also mention that although I have used them before in a few rare instances, I am reluctant about bribes and rewards (a la Alfie Kohn) and I still don't know how I feel about using them in the case of potty training. Maybe I will, maybe not, but I am waiting to see if the impetus comes from his side before I step in with a program involving bribes and rewards.

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