Do you have any?
I have horrible guessing track history.
I've wanted a daughter since I was a girl and I would love if this was a girl!
I guessed wrong with the first two, guessed right with the 3rd at first but started second-guessing myself midway through, and guessed right with the 4th.
This time around, I think girl. I have two of each so it really doesn't matter to me either way. My husband wants a boy so he won't get outnumbered. :)
I'd like a girl. I didn't think I'd care, but there it is. I want to use the girl's name we have picked out! And I think I would be a good mother to a girl. Not that I wouldn't to a boy, but ya know. DH doesn't mind I don't think - but he might be slightly more on the wanting a boy side. I don't really have any intuition on what this baby is.
DH really really really wants a girl. I honestly don't care either way, or have any intuition about it one way or the other yet. Part of me wants a boy (just because I haven't had one yet, and it might be nice to experience raising a little boy), but I know how much DH is hoping for a girl, so I guess I'm on board with that ;)
When I was pregnant with DD I "knew" she was a girl from the very beginning -- just didn't even consider that she may be a boy at all. It's odd to not have that feeling this time, and will be nice to be "surprised" when we do find out in a few months.
We don't care what sex our child is. I suppose if I did care then I would want to question myself as to why. What about male parts or female parts would be preferable to me? Regardless of their anatomy I know that my child's gender, and how they express it, will be entirely up to them. We just can't wait to meet our kid and get to know their personality. Our child will be free to be a boy who likes to play hockey or dance, a girl who likes woodworking or cooking. We're just looking forward to raising a child.
revolting - I think you make really good points. I think (hope?) that if my child is transgender and is raised in an open and supportive household, then eventually through self-exploration they will figure it out, and yes, they will own their gender identity in an entirely self-actualized way. I don't know of an effective way in this day and culture to raise a transgender child in a completely non-binary fashion that doesn't require a transition at some point from the assumed gender to the correct one. My hope would be to make any transition as painless as possible. So, I am not opposed to assigning gendered names and pronouns, even clothing in the early years, based on their sex. All these things can be changed. But there's no "hoping" or "expectation" for a specific sex or gender expression in our house, I guess that was my point. I don't see myself proactively buying feminine clothing for a male child for example, but we'll always let them know that they have choices and that we support them. That's our plan at least, we'll see how it plays out. I find it so sad and unfortunate that your neighbors make comments about your male child. We have such a long way to go...
I just think that those of us who have more than one child all of the same gender can understand that it would be cool to experience the other side of the coin as a new and wonderful experience.
i don't think it makes a huge difference in childhood, but I have happy fantasies of being the mom of an adult daughter, since my mom and I are best friends. I want that dynamic in my life when I'm her age. Of course adult sons and their mothers can be very close, etc.....but once they start their own families, their wives tend to become the female confidante in their lives, of course. But very generally speaking, women still tend to want to lean on their mothers when there is a good relationship, and confide in her & and allow a more central role in their lives, and a bit more connected role to the grand kids, at least in the very early stages. At least I do.
And if this is another boy, well that's awesome too and we are planning more so maybe one day.
I'm going to skip the gender identity discussion...
To be honest I'm hoping a little bit for a girl. We have a lot of boys with autism in my family and I know if I am pregnant with a boy I will be more nervous for him (though of course girls can have autism and of course he may not have autism and of course I also think people with autism are a great contribution to society and all that. It still makes life harder and why would I want life to be harder for my child?) So anyways, hoping a little bit for a girl.
Though if I were going with intuition I would lean slightly towards us having a boy, a few days ago I found myself refer to the baby as "he" for no reason. So maybe thats a sign?
Of course in the end just like all of you we'll be happy with anything