I couldn't find a post for what exactly I was looking for so I thought I'd start a new one.
My mom and a few select others keep telling me that I hold my baby too much. It's my first baby and she is now 3 months old. I admit do I do hold her a lot but I like to hold her. It;s what she has wanted since she was born. We Co-Sleep and she is next to me the whole night and during the day I am either holding her, wearing her in a carrier or I do set her on her play mat for as long as she is amused by it. She is probably in the play mat for maybe 20-40 minutes all together for the entire day. When she naps I'm either holding her cause it's a light nap and she will wake up easily or I try to lay her next to me on the couch. She sleeps for 8+ hours at night though. She will sleep for 4+ hours wake up, feed and we will change her and she will go back to sleep for another 4+ hours. My husband is really supportive of the way we have been caring for her and she seems happy so I don't see what the problem is.
My mom keeps saying that she will get used to being held and I will be holding her back from progressing, spoiling her and making it so no one else can hold her.
I honestly don't believe you can spoil a tiny baby but my mom says you can.
She thinks I should put her in the stroller more and put her down in the crib at night. I like wearing her and my baby enjoys it too. I feel uncomfortable with her being so far away from me a lot of times, unless she is with her father.
I know I amy be nervous cause it's my first time but I really don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong but my mom keeps hounding me and it seems like I may be holding her back or something. Our baby hates the stroller and Car seat, she screams and fusses the entire time she is in it. My mom just says to let her be and she will calm herself down but I don't want her to get so upset that she falls asleep.
I try going by my baby's cues and what she wants to do. I'm a stay at home mom so it's not like she will have to readjust life at a daycare or something.
I think my mother is mostly worried that I will exhaust myself out being with the baby all the time but I don't feel tired. I enjoy the time we spend together and when she's in the carrier I feel like I can pretty much do whatever I want. When my husband comes home from work he spends a lot of time with her too and it gives me a break as well.
I just wanted to know if anyone else held their baby and wore their baby for a majority of the beginning of being a mother and the baby grew up normally and happily.