Thought you all might like to check out this interesting article from one of our bloggers, Kristen Tea.
For some people, announcing a pregnancy is a happy, exciting time. Many soon-to-be mothers experience joyous reactions, hugs, happy tears, high-fives, and other loving, encouraging responses. Others are not so fortunate, and it seems that an etiquette guide is in order.
I am a single parent, and although I was 23 and had a good job at a library, most of the responses I received when I told people I was pregnant were insensitive and inconsiderate. It appeared that the main focus was that I was unmarried, not that I would be giving birth to a real live human in a few months. Instead of “Congratulations!” I heard, “Are you going to keep it?” Instead of, “Wow, you’re going to be a great mom!” I got, “This is not what you needed!” Instead of happy tears, there were tears of disappointment and sadness. There were a few people who were wonderfully supportive, but overall I felt a lot more anxiety than joy at telling people.
I know other moms who have gotten negative remarks too. One of my single mama friends heard, “How will you afford a child?” when she announced her first pregnancy, and three years later upon announcing her second pregnancy (although she is now partnered, working, and happy) she promptly heard, “How will you afford two children?” I have friends with multiple children who get questions like, “This will be your last, right?” or, “You know what causes this, don’t you?” I have other single-parent friends who received similar reactions as I did, with people suggesting they are making a mistake, rather than offering support.
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Did you ever face any weird comments when you announced your pregnancy?