"DEMs are just lazy" (Vent)

[Doulola]

Wow. This came from a friend of mine (who I don't see that often) who is a nurse and is aspiring to be a CNM, right after I asked her what made her want to be a CNM instead of a CPM/DEM. I laughed when she said this, thinking she was joking, and then asked her what she meant. She went on to say, and I quote:

"Why not go all the way instead of half way? You can become a Nurse first, it won't kill you to do the extra work."

I then mentioned, still trying to keep this a light conversation since she is generally a nice person, that there are a lot of factors that come into play when women decide how they want to learn and practice, and that there are accredited school and certification that require a lot of hard work from students.

The conversation turned unfriendly when she scoffed at this, and went on to say, "The reason so many people think of Midwives as dangerous is because of the ones learning outside of the hospital."

Wow.

She had no idea that I'm a Midwifery student now, we didn't get that far into the conversation before I walked away haha

Just needed to vent, this was really unexpected.

[NurseMomX4]

Sounds like it's a good thing you don't see this person very often!

It never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be. 
 

[phathui5]

Wow. That's like an MD saying that CNMs are lazy. I mean, if you're going to become a CNM, why not just go all the way and be a doctor?

[Phoenix~Mama]

She seems pretty misinformed!  That's such an awful thing to say!  And with no validity behind it.  We all make our personal choices of which path to choose for many different reasons and "lazy" I'm sure does not factor into it at all!

I'm a pre-nursing student at the moment, going for end goal of CNM.  I'm on a few discussion boards which all have the inevtiable threads of CPM or CNM discussion, and I've never seen this rude statement before, thankfully!  There is hard work involved in all paths.  We are talking about mothers and babies lives here.

I hope your friend obtains some more worldly views before she is out practicing.  Midwives should not be pitted against each other.  We are all doing very hard and respectful work.  All paths are needed for all women to have choices that are most comfortable to them.  That is what it is all about.  Supporting women for their unique choices, and that should go across from mother, to colleagues, no matter the background or letters behind their name.