So my MIL had my daughters over her house today. On their way back, my eldest threw up in my MIL's car . When they got here she made my husband clean it out (while MIL's husband basically stood there watching). There's sort of more detail and back story about my MIL's personality and that of her husband, but I guess what I want to know is, just on the face of it, if I was wrong to let this bother me. Incidentally I have been dealing with revolving sick kids (and sick self) for several weeks now including DD vomiting in my car as well. (I did not ask or expect DH's help in cleaning it FWIW.)
MIL and her husband do have plenty of money and could easily afford to go have it shampooed at a car wash, but that isn't so much what bothered me--I don't have any problem with frugality or people not spending money when they don't have to. It is more the way it is expected that my DH clean it up. (And they are likely also going to take it to a car wash as well anyway.)
I guess in my family it would not go down this way. My DH or I would definitely offer to do it of course, but it would never be just expected that it would happen. And there wouldn't be this underlying feeling of it is all our fault.
I guess one of the reasons I ask is that I kind of made it obvious that I was mad about it and of course (like so many other times when I try to do what I think is standing up for myself or my family) as soon as they left I immediately feel extreme guilt about acting that way. And then wondering if I was right to be mad about it at all.