I moved to Indiana for school after being discharged from the Air Force while pregnant. I moved to indiana because I got offered the most in scholarships to attend school. Baby's daddy (we were never together, just f**buddies) flew in from Cali (he's active AF) to attend the birth, but only had a few days of leave and was scheduled to fly back two days later. I didn't bond with my baby right away, and was terrified that I wasn't going to be able to be a single mom with no family or frineds around. I panicked. I had the blues and didn't know what to do, so when BD told me he'd take him, and when I got thinks sorted out give him back, I said okay. So I signed over custody and at two weeks postpardom, watched my baby fly 2200 miles away. A few days later, I just knew I couldn't spend my life like this. I wanted my baby back! But BD said no. Long story short, after 4 months fighting, he said if I moved to Cali, we could have 50/50...and we signed the paperwork.
So now I'm moved out there (but to my own apartment)...and realizing that BD is not putting our son first, he's putting himself first. He has a gf now and doesn't think there's anything wrong taking our son on dates with him. (This is after letting a girl who he was sleeping with move in with him, but ther never, and still aren't dating...she just screwed him and took care of my baby when his dad wasn't around). He sees nothing wrong with it. It's things like that and countless others that make me ralize that he has his priorities WAY wrong. Talking to him doesn't help. We just argue.
So I want custody back to move back home to my family and friends and my son's godparents to go to school and raise our son. Does anyone have ANY adivce on how to do this? I cannot afford a lawyer...or I'd need one that can let me pay over a a year or more. I have found NO legal aid here (Yuba County, CA)...I just don't know what to do any more! I don't want to explain to my son why his dad is such a flake. He's only 7 months now, so he doesn't know...but I am so afraid of when he's older!!!!