We are a mixed household. My husband is from India and follows a more strict version of Hinduism that does not appeal to me. I am all for a more moderate, mainstream path of Hinduism, but I also teach our kids that all paths lead to the top of the mountain and in all paths there is inherent goodness. Dh's services that he attends are in someone's home and frankly, very long, drawn out, and boring. I stopped attending years ago but have always encouraged us to all go to the mainstream temple. He chooses not to.
So aside from this conflict we have, my daughters also find the services very long and boring. They don't get a lot out of it but he has taken them about 4x a year to the special days. This last time both kids strongly protested that they did not want to go because it was boring and they didn't understand it. The prayers are all in Sanskrit and the service is about 45 minutes long. I told them it was important to daddy that they go, and it's a good way to learn about their heritage, but they were not sold. Dh also said he was made to go to the long services as a child and yes it was boring, but you get spiritual benefits from it and he's glad he was made to go as a child. The nine year old ended up going but the twelve year old outright refused and in the end she was left behind. She says she doesn't want to go anymore at all and doesn't believe in "that stuff." She is more a universal soul like me. :-)
I don't want to cause problems in our family, I guess I kinda already have by not going to the services myself. At what point and what age can a child have the right to choose his or her own religious path, or bow out of the religion he or she is raised in?