amlikam, hope your massage helped!
pastormama, sorry about your DD really wanting you for sleep time, though its good you are getting plenty of sleep! I was going to suggest having DH help with nighttime, but that's hard if she isn't wanting him after him SAH with her all day. Maybe you could both put her down for awhile and then try to transition to DH eventually? Hmm...
Twilightjoy, I'm one of those who never dresses a NB unless I'm going out or people are visiting, they are in and out of diapers so much it just seems like a waste of effort to me usually
I really like the doing either a side snap shirt with baby swaddled in a blanket (you can add pants w/feet to this, but I usually didn't bother) or gowns with baby swaddled (gowns are great for diaper changes, but I hate putting stuff over NB heads, so I like the side snap shirts best) or snap/zip up one-piece outfits with feet that are good as PJs or clothes. I HATE socks on NBs, they always kick them off, I get everything with feet or keep their feet covered. I have some sleep sacks, but DD liked to be swaddled with a blanket so I never used them. I think it is worth getting 1 or 2 and seeing if your baby likes them or would rather be swaddled. As far as how many (this is for each baby FYI), I have 12 side snap shirts as I got new ones and still have my old ones, 3-4 pairs of footed pants, 3 gowns, maybe ~8 footed one-piece outfits, 8 onesies (but I don't like onesies until they are at least 4-8 weeks old as they go over the head so these are just what I have from last time), a random outfit or two (pants, onesie + overshirt) which I likely won't use, a few NB hats, 2 sleep sacks and a bunch of blankets for swaddling, at least 16 a piece and probably more. I really like having a lot of blankets as you can stash them everywhere and use them for whatever without worrying about running out. Luckily, you usually get a boatload as gifts anyway. I did get cute coming home outfits for the babies too, not everyone does this, but I think it is fun
I did go with something more practical this time so they could wear it after too, but you don't have to be practical, though make sure it will go in a carseat easily unless it is just for photos.
For BFing, I never needed pads so I can't help on the brands, but I'd get a box of disposables (I hear Lansinoh is good from my SIL) and maybe 4 washables and then buy more based on what you need. I planned to use washables mostly, but have disposables for convenience and under certain clothes (washables are bulkier), same plan if I need them this time. I'd get 1-2 nursing bras before hand (probably a sleep one and a "regular" bra one) and then add to it as your size normalizes and you figure out what you like. Bravado is very awesome, worth the price for sure, Target bras are not as nice, but they ones I had held up as well as any department store bra does (so not as long as Victoria's Secret, but should at least last one child, maybe two) and it was nice to be able to buy some in a brick & mortar store. I had the nursing gown at the hospital and never used it as I just stayed in the hospital gown until I left, but most people don't like to stay in the hospital gown so I'd recommend getting one, I'm going to bring mine again just in case. I never used the nursing gowns at home, I just wore 2-piece PJs and pulled up shirts instead, but you might like them for home so it's worth having one regardless I think.
For nursing pillows, I didn't like any of them with DD, but the boppy is nice to use for other things, so I would get one. I did get a twins breastfriend pillow this time as they come highly recommended, but I may just end up using a few flat pillows again like with DD.
nstewart, I definitely wanted DD ok with Daddy for bedtime well before the babies arrived, but I weaned her at 19 months and she is 3 now, so that makes it a lot easier. She actually goes to bed for him faster and better and will even request him now, though she still usually asks for me to put her to bed. We are still trading off some, but DH is probably putting her down 75% of the time now. As far as recommendations, I dunno, it's so hard and something I'm struggling with too. Right now, I'm trying to strike a balance of being there and comforting her some, but trying to get her to go to Dad more than half the time when possible to get her used to it some so she isn't too resentful of the babies.
Busy day at work ahead, so I may not post much until later when I need a break