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post #21 of 50

jaq - omg, I am so sorry! Girl, you really need a break! I hope it ends up working out for the best and you can look back on a challenge overcome that makes you better and stronger for it.

 

Marie, I had a weird baby dream last night too... DD and I were looking at my belly and could distinctly see a foot, as we were marveling at it, we saw that my belly went translucent and we could see the baby, little butt sticking up...DH came and I asked him if her could see boy or girl parts and he said girl...suddenly little girl was in my arms, no idea how she came, but I was like 'you are too early, you can't be here yet' and she just wanted to nurse, so we did...I was worried that I'd have to take her to the hospital, but she seemed fine... totally strange!

 

n - thanks for the warning on the flushables, luckily our plumbing is not very old, but I will be attentive to that anyway! DD came home from school yesterday declaring that she was better! Her runny/stuffy nose is gone, and now we just have to get rid if her red mustache from wiping it for 3 days.

 

Getting ready for vacation, we leave early tomorrow, we are all very excited! I'll post a pic when we get back, but going to be offline for 7 whole days, woo-hoo!

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Her runny/stuffy nose is gone, and now we just have to get rid if her red mustache from wiping it for 3 days.

 

 

 

ROTFLMAO.gif     OMWord!!! I know exactly what you mean!!! lol.gif  I seriously laughed soooo hard when I read that. I got some strange looks!  DD sports the same stash!

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Jackie - I'm so sorry to hear about your situation!  That really, really, sucks.  Amen to you needing to catch a break!  I don't know if I'd take the other house sight unseen, but I'd at least go and look at it.  If you don't like it and decide to move in 6 months you are no further behind than if you move into one of the short term rentals you mentioned except you don't have to pay the 20% premium.  I would also agree that if you go that route you negotiate some concessions into your lease (ex. you have the option to terminate at any time on 30 days notice, no primary term, etc.) or on the rental price or something.  I personally wouldn't want to wait the 30 days for the other tenant to be out on the risk that she isn't actually out by then.   Often the tenant in those situations knows the legal system better than the landlord and is able to hang on and hang on for a very long time.

 

Katie, I'm glad to hear DD had a better night last night!  I've been tired too, so I was in bed at 8:30 last night, and asleep by 9pm.  Thank goodness because DS was up about 4 times in the night, wanting to nurse, wanting to come and sleep in our bed, wanting me to sleep in his bed....ugh.  I told DH that I can't be the solo night time parent anymore because it just will not be feasible with two, so this weekend we are going to impliment daddy night time parenting in our house and re-night wean DS.  It's hard to resist at 3am when I know it'll get him back to sleep and he says "just a 'lil bit" and when I know the alternative is him crying!  But he's 2.5, I just don't think he "needs" to nurse at night, much as he might disagree!  Oh, and I hope work isn't too crazy busy for you!!

 

Marie, great to hear that you are finding the baby stuff that you need!

 

Sheryl, have an amazing vacation!  Glad to hear DD is feeling better.

 

Work has been pretty quiet this week, so I'm a bit bored, but it could be worse and I could be slammed.  Two of the three other people on my team are on vacation next week so I suspect I'll be making up for the slackness of this week quite soon!  Just came from my MW appointment, and we talked about some options for dealing with nausea, etc.  She has a couple homeopathic remedies she uses, she's also got gravol, and she said that while she's never seen anyone who is bad enough to need Zofran she can send her assistant to the hospital for some if I really need it (we live 10 mins away).  So that was good.  Bad news (maybe) - she's only 50% sure baby is head down!  Baby has been head down forever, but at about 3 am when I was up with DS last night I felt baby do a big sommersault or something!  So I wasn't shocked when she said that she wasn't about baby's position.  Obviously I am only 33 weeks so I'm not panicked or anything, but I am going to check out spinning babies and do some of the more gentle techniques for getting baby to move.  If she still isn't sure at my next appt in 2 weeks she'll do a vaginal exam to confirm position but again, I'll worry about that if I need to when the time comes.  She did reassure me that if baby has been heads down already it is very, very unusual for them to end up breech.

 

post #24 of 50

Hi everyone.  I've been MIA for a bit but wanted to check in.

 

DH and I took our birth class this past weekend.  8 hours of birthing goodness in nice, uncomfortable chairs.  Whooopee!  But now I can say that we did it (MW requires it) and we've gotten the hospital tour out of the way too.  It wasn't as bad as I was expecting.  I kinda expected to get kicked out for inappropriate jokes but we made it the whole way through and weren't the only ones giggling at inappropriate times.  It was also somewhat comforting, we both gained a better understanding of the labor process and different ways to manage it.  I'm still not looking forward to the pain but it's one day and there are drugs if I need them (although I learned that apparently narcotics don't help with pain, they just help you relax?).  And you know what?  When we toured the birth wing there was no screaming to be heard which was surprising and super comforting.

 

Starting to look forward to our baby shower which is weird but I think it's because I just want to know what we're getting so I know what we still need to get.  I'd be fine not having one and buying everything ourselves too but I suppose if I have to go through the awkward family I don't really know thing I may as well get some parting gifts.  People seem to be buying a bit off the registry which is good as DH and I aren't really stuff people so we don't want a bunch of frou frou stuff and impractical outfits.

 

My mother is driving me crazy between the constant demands for belly pictures (which she's not getting, EVER), comments about my weight, and talk of stretch marks.  Not to mention constant complaining about how it's soooooooo hard to find cute stuff for boys.  Funny, I haven't had that problem.  But that's her gender disappointment peaking out like I knew it would.  Eventually it'll become talk of how if I had had a girl ___ would be so much easier.  Toss in a few comments about how waiting sooooo long (I'm 30?!?) must be the reason I'm experiencing completely normal pregnancy symptoms (stuffy nose and back pain to be exact) and some preemptive pouting about when can we come see her (she's 4.5 hours away with good traffic) this summer because it makes perfect sense that the ones with the newborn should be the ones to travel.  I cannot wait until she says or does something completely appalling so we can cut her out of our lives for good (I know I'm justified in doing so now as she's had 30 years of appalling behavior but it seems easier if there's something clear cut I can point to).  She's also randomly started pouting about my shower since she's not throwing it and lamenting how she would throw me one but I don't live there and there'd be no one to come.  She also hasn't looked at our registry yet but keeps asking what we really want off of it.  Um...we wouldn't have put stuff on there if we didn't think we wanted or needed it.  She just wants to be able to jump in and buy the most treasured items.  Yea..it's baby stuff; these things will get peed on, pooped on, spit up on, etc.  Again, we're not stuff people so we won't exactly be keeping his first dirty diaper and bronzing it or anything.  It's all very specific, time sensitive stuff that'll serve its purpose and then we'll either save for another kid or get rid of (and that'll be another guilt trip).

 

We're still working on our furniture projects.  And by working, I mean they're still sitting unfinished in our basement.  We need some nicer weather so DH can sand outside for the one piece but the bookshelf we could finish in a night if we wanted to.  I want it done but lack the motivation to actually do it.

 

Hope everything is going well for everyone.  I know there's upheaval for some with moving and sickies and whatnot so I hope everything clears up soon and we ride out the rest of this in style.

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My pregnant friend just posted this on facebook as "85 must have items for your hospital bag" http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=91906 Made me chuckle so I thought I would share with you ladies too.


Jacqueline- what did you decide to do with your house?


Marie- I've never done yoga before... do you think I could handle prenatal yoga? I've been doing this stretching video, but only 1-2 times a week. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jxe2pWXT2s


As for me, I am ready for this babe to come out! We have almost all the "stuff" bought, my birth plan is written, and we've gone and toured the hospital. Plus I'm starting to get uncomfortable. These next 2 months are going to go sooo slowly. I can't wait to meet this LO!
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Jac-  Oh i am so sorry!  I hope that you and DH are able to find a workable ( if less than ideal) situation. 

 

Marie, Oh pregnancy dreams are so funny!  I remember having one during my first pregnancy in which the baby had a 5 o'clock shadow. 

 

Sheryl, I hope your vacation is great! 

 

NStewart, I am sure you will get your baby to turn.  It's sure frustrating when they decide to do a somersault this late in the pregnancy though.  DD2 did that to me and I spent several night hanging out on my ironing board with a bag of peas to get her to turn.  ;/

 

Amanda, I'm so glad you survived your birthing class!  Sounds like you and your Dh even managed to have a little fun with it.  I also love when people buy off the registry-that's why it's there!  I sometimes end up figuring out where unwanted things were from and trying to exchange them for things we need.  I hope it goes well and you get what you need/want!  Sorry that your mom is being , uh, tough.  That would be really hard

 

Twilight, UH that list?  Seriously?  Wow, over-packing.  I guess it's for marketing but I just can't imagine.  I was thinking about maybe "splurging" on a comfy sweat shirt the hospital.  I'm in the camp with you of ready to be done.  How about now?  Now sounds like a good time to have this baby.

 

Well, I had an OB appt this morning.  Standard stuff, everything is looking fine, measuring right on track, come back in two weeks.  My tummy was yucky (it always is but today was worse) so I spent most of the afternoon on the couch.  I turned on HGTV and now I can't understand why my bathroom isn't done.  They renovate everything in a half an hour.  lol.gif My floors and bathrooms desperately need to be cleaned but I guess I will see how tomorrow goes.   

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Crossing fingers...the owner has pulled out all the stops and is having his agent arrange for movers and storage for the tenant.  She is supposed to be out Monday.  I have no idea what is up with this tenant or why the owner would go to this hassle and cost for her.  If she is out Monday, they will clean up the place on Tuesday/Wednesday and we can move Friday, just in the nick of time.  Next Saturday is our last day to be able to move without rearranging plane tickets and finding a different place to go.  Fortunately DH was able to convey to the agent precisely how important it was that our move is not delayed any further, minus the pregnancy hormones.  If I had called the guy, well, let's just say he might be permanently damaged.

 

No, we aren't buying this house, I would have had a major meltdown followed by an attorney calling them if that were the case.  This is just a rental, the first step in selling our condo and buying a house.  But still, the lease has already been broken and we haven't even moved yet.  And we've been waiting for the house for 5+ weeks.

 

Will update on this Monday when I know the tenant is out and catch up on everyone, but now I need to call all the utilities and reschedule the turn on dates, reschedule the truck, and reschedule our friends helping us!  Blah!  What a nightmare.  I have to rearrange shipping on some things we ordered for the baby too.  Dang it!

 

aHiraku: DD was early because, well, that just seems to be my life!  She was born 4 months after Hurricane Katrina (we lived in New Orleans at the time) and 9 months 2 weeks after my stillbirth, so I guess between those 2 major events and my undiagnosed rheumatoid arthritis and celiacs disease my body could not handle another thing (it's amazing my body could even deal with all of that at once).  I also had pre-term labor and pre-eclampsia with DD, and so far *crossing fingers again* that has not happened.  But this situation would have probably pushed me over the top I suspect because of the rheumatoid flare right now (partly due to stress?).  As it is, yesterday when this was really heating up, I had to go to bed.  I was exhausted already and in pain again.

 

om.gif  Probably a good idea for me right now but not time!

post #28 of 50
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MarieWalter, baby dreams are always interesting smile.gif glad the prenatal yoga was nice, I don't do much of it, but yes even a little is heavenly!

adventuregirl, another weird baby dream, have fun on your vacation!

nstewart, yeah I've already made it clear to DH he will be in charge of getting DD to bed and her wake ups for awhile once the babies arrive. Luckily, she goes to bed better for him right now than me and he enjoys it. We started making that transition awhile back for that and other reasons, so she's very used to having either of us put her down. I was lucky in that weaning DD went smoothly, it didn't help her sleep any better, but she didn't fight it as long as she could have cuddles and her ducky blanket. Getting her off the ducky blanket someday will probably be tough (she sucks on it), but I don't plan to worry about that for awhile. She only gets it for sleep now, so I'm happy with that for now even though I know DH would like to push it.

AmandaLynnH, good to hear from you! I can understand being excited about the shower so that you can do the rest of your shopping once you know what folks are getting you. Glad your birth class went well, honestly there is rarely screaming on the L&D floor smile.gif Yeah, narcotics don't get rid of pain, they just make you not care about it basically and work better/worse for some people. I personally wouldn't take them, but some people like 'em. Sorry your Mom is still being a pest! I know how it makes it easier if she does something big so you can cut her off, I'm kind of hoping she will soon so you can do it even though that sucks greensad.gif

TwilightJoy, I assume that Old Navy list is a joke lol.gif I hear you on impatience, I'm not there yet since I still have to finish setting stuff up when the remodel is done, but once I've got all that stuff set up I'm going to start getting antsy even though of course I want the babes to grow as much as possible!

CoBaby, hope you feel better today! Too funny about HGTV smile.gif

jacquelinej, glad the owner is on the ball now, hopefully it all works out! Good luck with all your calls and rescheduling, what a pain. After this, you better have a nice smooth and boring rest of your pregnancy, you've earned it 100x over!

They got our new kitchen floor in last night, it looks great and the feel of it is awesome, it is very soft and warm feeling, but looks like tile. We did the "tiles" offset, so no grout either which is what I wanted to avoid for a kitchen floor. Not sure what else they will do this week, sounds like most everything is waiting until next week.

DD was so cute last night. She was talking about the babies coming soon and she would get to play with them when they got a little older. Then she was asking me if she could kiss the babies and I told her yes if she was gentle and she asked if she could kiss them on their heads. Then she said they would play in the bath with her when they were older. So cute! She's had a really good week at daycare and while she was a bit grouchy this morning, she's been great at home too.

Work is busy, but not too bad. It's just hard because I'm tired so I'm not at 100%, but I'm doing fine. Trying to keep on top of everything just in case as I don't want to leave my coworkers with a mess!
post #29 of 50
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Marie- I've never done yoga before... do you think I could handle prenatal yoga? I've been doing this stretching video, but only 1-2 times a week. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jxe2pWXT2s
 

 

I'm sure you could! The video (I flipped through quickly) looks like it has a lot of yoga-like stretching, so it probably wouldn't feel too different. And I think most prenatal yoga videos (and possibly classes? Although I've never been to one) are made to be suitable throughout pregnancy, so they offer lots of options for how to adjust poses if you need to take it a little easier, or if your belly is getting in the way. I also enjoyed the breathing/relaxation/concentration aspects of this yoga more than I normally do. Maybe check out a dvd from the library and see how you like it!

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sleepytime.gif   golly anyone else sooooo bone tiredthese days.... I'm just 28 weeks and already feeling full with this pregnancy (daylight savings didn't really help either).... ugh.

 

Off to my massage. Hoping that helps with something. *yawn*

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sleepytime.gif    golly anyone else sooooo bone tiredthese days.... I'm just 28 weeks and already feeling full with this pregnancy (daylight savings didn't really help either).... ugh.

Off to my massage. Hoping that helps with something. *yawn*

Yes!! The only thing saving me right now is that dd (23 months) is going through a very needy phase and insists that I sleep with her allll night. We haven't coslept the entire night since she was about a year! I think she knows what's up with the interloper who is coming. smile.gif. So I've been going to bed about seven thirty and sleeping eleven hours or so with her each night! At first I was resentful but then I saw what a blessing in disguise it was for my body right now. I do miss dh though!! Oh well. It can't go on forever! In a few weeks things will change radically.
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sleepytime.gif   golly anyone else sooooo bone tiredthese days.... I'm just 28 weeks and already feeling full with this pregnancy (daylight savings didn't really help either).... ugh.

 

Off to my massage. Hoping that helps with something. *yawn*

I was just going to say this exact same thing! I am 28 1/2 weeks and have been feeling pretty good up til now. I'm kind of irritated the fatigue finally got to me- blaming daylight savings as well.

 

I am super tired but just powering through til evening. Then I go lay down. I don't even care about dinner anymore. It's that bad   ;)

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sleepytime.gif   golly anyone else sooooo bone tiredthese days.... I'm just 28 weeks and already feeling full with this pregnancy (daylight savings didn't really help either).... ugh.

 

Off to my massage. Hoping that helps with something. *yawn*

Me too!!  Is it bed time yet??  It's only 3pm here and I just want to be in my jammies.  PM, maybe I should go to bed with DS too.  He'd love that.  He's been wanting to come into our bed every night anyway.  But I am hoping to night wean (again...) and get him out of the habit of needing mommy at night before bubs arrives so maybe that's not the best idea....Again, not sure what is best.  I want him to get the cuddles/reassurance, etc. he feels he needs right now but I just can't see changing habits right when baby arrives to be the best idea (for us) either as then I worry he'll blame the baby.

 

3rd time or more moms, any insight?

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NS, I night-weaned DD1 (like you again, because we had a big move from Colorado to Nevada and I let her start nursing at night again) for the second time when I was pregnant with DD2.  I just didn't have the energy to be up at night.  She continued to nurse during the day for a long time after that.  For us it was the right choice because I knew I needed more rest and she could still nurse during the day.

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Me too!!  Is it bed time yet??  It's only 3pm here and I just want to be in my jammies.  PM, maybe I should go to bed with DS too.  He'd love that.  He's been wanting to come into our bed every night anyway.  But I am hoping to night wean (again...) and get him out of the habit of needing mommy at night before bubs arrives so maybe that's not the best idea....Again, not sure what is best.  I want him to get the cuddles/reassurance, etc. he feels he needs right now but I just can't see changing habits right when baby arrives to be the best idea (for us) either as then I worry he'll blame the baby.

3rd time or more moms, any insight?

No good advice obviously since I'm having this issue as well! When I was frustrated about dd needing me and only me all night I got the no-cry sleep solution for toddlers and preschoolers from the library. It has a good long section about dealing with this. Basically I have become my daughters sleep association smile.gif. I need to do a process of slowly moving from her bed to the floor, to the doorway, etc, etc. only problem? I'm exhausted and pass out before her!! I think I screwed up and waited too long because even if I was super committed and could stay awake, it would take longer than I have left before ds arrives. I'm also worried about her blaming her sibling. Guess it won't be the first time?

I did wean her early in the pregnancy because nursing was so painful for me. So that's not an issue. A big part of it for us is also that dh became a sahd a few months ago so daddy has zero appeal at bedtime anymore, after they spend all day together. No idea what to do.
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I'm making a list of things that I "need" to buy before this babe (#1) gets here. Feeling so overwhelmed.


What does your newborn clothes stash look like? Do you have "day" outfits and "night" outfits? Onesies? Baby legs? Swaddle sacks? How many?


I don't have anything for breastfeeding or pumping yet. How many breast pads do I need? And do you have a brand recommendation? How many nursing bras do I need? Should I buy a nursing nightgown for the 2 days in the hospital?

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I'm making a list of things that I "need" to buy before this babe (#1) gets here. Feeling so overwhelmed.


What does your newborn clothes stash look like? Do you have "day" outfits and "night" outfits? Onesies? Baby legs? Swaddle sacks? How many?


I don't have anything for breastfeeding or pumping yet. How many breast pads do I need? And do you have a brand recommendation? How many nursing bras do I need? Should I buy a nursing nightgown for the 2 days in the hospital?

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...I'm eagerly awaiting everyone's answers to these, too.  Maybe we need a "help the n00bs" thread!

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No good advice obviously since I'm having this issue as well! When I was frustrated about dd needing me and only me all night I got the no-cry sleep solution for toddlers and preschoolers from the library. It has a good long section about dealing with this. Basically I have become my daughters sleep association smile.gif. I need to do a process of slowly moving from her bed to the floor, to the doorway, etc, etc. only problem? I'm exhausted and pass out before her!! I think I screwed up and waited too long because even if I was super committed and could stay awake, it would take longer than I have left before ds arrives. I'm also worried about her blaming her sibling. Guess it won't be the first time?

I did wean her early in the pregnancy because nursing was so painful for me. So that's not an issue. A big part of it for us is also that dh became a sahd a few months ago so daddy has zero appeal at bedtime anymore, after they spend all day together. No idea what to do.

It's tough, isn't it.  I guess we all just have to do what feels right and do the best we can!  om.gif

 

 I had to do exactly what you described about a year and a bit ago as for a long time DS would only go to sleep if I was in the room.  It didn't take that long, maybe 2 weeks, until I was physically out of the room when he fell asleep?  But I can see it taking longer with an older toddler.  I spent a couple more weeks  in the hallway just outside his door, and would always tell him that I was going to "stay close" (and he'd call me to check that I did!)  So DS is pretty good about going to bed by himself (after mommy moot and cuddles) and he is pretty good the first time he wakes up, between 11am and 1 am to pee.  It's when he wakes up after that that it gets hairy!

 

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I'm making a list of things that I "need" to buy before this babe (#1) gets here. Feeling so overwhelmed.


What does your newborn clothes stash look like? Do you have "day" outfits and "night" outfits? Onesies? Baby legs? Swaddle sacks? How many?

I know lots of people don't feel this way, but with DS I felt like it was really important to "get him dressed" even when he was pretty new.  I don't know why, maybe because I never feel good if I spend the day in my jammies, so why would he?  lol.  So "day" outfits would be a onsie with some little soft pants (usually with feet) and a little sweater/jacket type thing.  For nights, I really liked the "night gown" type jammies with the elastic at the bottom because it made diaper changes really easy.  I didn't use baby legs when he was a NB, but can see them being convenient if it's warm enough where you live in may to use them instead of proper pants/bottoms.  DS didn't like being swaddled as a newborn.  So I had a couple "swaddle" type things but didn't use them, just used blankets.  How many...hmmm...I had been lent a ton of NB clothes so I had way too much stuff.  I think you'd have more than enough if you had 10 "day outfits" and maybe 10 or so "jammies"??  They don't fit the NB stuff that long, but for my DS at least, the 0-3 month stuff was huge when he was born (at 7lbs, 4oz which is pretty average).

I don't have anything for breastfeeding or pumping yet. How many breast pads do I need? And do you have a brand recommendation? How many nursing bras do I need? Should I buy a nursing nightgown for the 2 days in the hospital?
I wish I would have bought a nice nursing nightgown last time, so I would say "yes" to that.  I would suggest just buying 1 nursing bra for now, because you don't know what you'll need when your milk comes in in terms of size/fit.  Afterwards, you'll prob want 2 as a bare minimum.  I LOVE Bravado nursing bras.  Can't say enough good things about them.  SO comfy, was beautifully, and are very durable.  I had two (1 black, 1 nude) and I wore them for more than a year and they held up really well to a zillion washings.  This is the one that I loved.  I know that Target sells a less expensive line of the Bravado bras, but we don't have Target here (yet) so I don't know if they are as good or not.  

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ETA: Get a good nursing pillow too!!  There are two camps: bobby type pillow, and breast friend type pillow.  I am in the boppy camp, others are in the breast friend camp.  It's really personal to what is comfortable to you.

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amlikam, hope your massage helped!

pastormama, sorry about your DD really wanting you for sleep time, though its good you are getting plenty of sleep! I was going to suggest having DH help with nighttime, but that's hard if she isn't wanting him after him SAH with her all day. Maybe you could both put her down for awhile and then try to transition to DH eventually? Hmm...

Twilightjoy, I'm one of those who never dresses a NB unless I'm going out or people are visiting, they are in and out of diapers so much it just seems like a waste of effort to me usually smile.gif I really like the doing either a side snap shirt with baby swaddled in a blanket (you can add pants w/feet to this, but I usually didn't bother) or gowns with baby swaddled (gowns are great for diaper changes, but I hate putting stuff over NB heads, so I like the side snap shirts best) or snap/zip up one-piece outfits with feet that are good as PJs or clothes. I HATE socks on NBs, they always kick them off, I get everything with feet or keep their feet covered. I have some sleep sacks, but DD liked to be swaddled with a blanket so I never used them. I think it is worth getting 1 or 2 and seeing if your baby likes them or would rather be swaddled. As far as how many (this is for each baby FYI), I have 12 side snap shirts as I got new ones and still have my old ones, 3-4 pairs of footed pants, 3 gowns, maybe ~8 footed one-piece outfits, 8 onesies (but I don't like onesies until they are at least 4-8 weeks old as they go over the head so these are just what I have from last time), a random outfit or two (pants, onesie + overshirt) which I likely won't use, a few NB hats, 2 sleep sacks and a bunch of blankets for swaddling, at least 16 a piece and probably more. I really like having a lot of blankets as you can stash them everywhere and use them for whatever without worrying about running out. Luckily, you usually get a boatload as gifts anyway. I did get cute coming home outfits for the babies too, not everyone does this, but I think it is fun smile.gif I did go with something more practical this time so they could wear it after too, but you don't have to be practical, though make sure it will go in a carseat easily unless it is just for photos.

For BFing, I never needed pads so I can't help on the brands, but I'd get a box of disposables (I hear Lansinoh is good from my SIL) and maybe 4 washables and then buy more based on what you need. I planned to use washables mostly, but have disposables for convenience and under certain clothes (washables are bulkier), same plan if I need them this time. I'd get 1-2 nursing bras before hand (probably a sleep one and a "regular" bra one) and then add to it as your size normalizes and you figure out what you like. Bravado is very awesome, worth the price for sure, Target bras are not as nice, but they ones I had held up as well as any department store bra does (so not as long as Victoria's Secret, but should at least last one child, maybe two) and it was nice to be able to buy some in a brick & mortar store. I had the nursing gown at the hospital and never used it as I just stayed in the hospital gown until I left, but most people don't like to stay in the hospital gown so I'd recommend getting one, I'm going to bring mine again just in case. I never used the nursing gowns at home, I just wore 2-piece PJs and pulled up shirts instead, but you might like them for home so it's worth having one regardless I think.

For nursing pillows, I didn't like any of them with DD, but the boppy is nice to use for other things, so I would get one. I did get a twins breastfriend pillow this time as they come highly recommended, but I may just end up using a few flat pillows again like with DD.

nstewart, I definitely wanted DD ok with Daddy for bedtime well before the babies arrived, but I weaned her at 19 months and she is 3 now, so that makes it a lot easier. She actually goes to bed for him faster and better and will even request him now, though she still usually asks for me to put her to bed. We are still trading off some, but DH is probably putting her down 75% of the time now. As far as recommendations, I dunno, it's so hard and something I'm struggling with too. Right now, I'm trying to strike a balance of being there and comforting her some, but trying to get her to go to Dad more than half the time when possible to get her used to it some so she isn't too resentful of the babies.

Busy day at work ahead, so I may not post much until later when I need a break smile.gif
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Thank you soooooo much N and Katie. Here's my list of what I think I need to buy... would you recommend any more or less of any of the quantities, or any items I'm forgetting? I want to make sure we're all set for when I come home from the hospital.

I'm feeling much more zen now. om.gif Thank you again for your advice!


Baby:
- 10 NB size side snap shirts / onesies
- 4-6 NB size footed pants
- 4-6 One piece foooted snap down outfits
- 8 NB size nightgowns
- 2 sleep sacks
- Blankets for swaddling

Mama:
- Nursing nightgown
- 1 nursing bra now, 2 later once my milk comes in
- 1 box disposable pads
- 4 washable pads
- Boppy or brest friend
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