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post #21 of 94
Oh gosh you guys. I'm so sorry. It is frustrating.... My last 6 have all been at least a week over. I think my family knows better by now (they should). Even with all of the prodromal labor last week they know that she very well likely will stay put another week and a half... Big hugs all around.
post #22 of 94
Thread Starter 

Isn't it amazing that even when your previous have been over they still want baby to come early?  My MIL told me this week that she carried DH to 43 weeks and then was induced (which failed and she ended up with a c/s).  And then she asked me if I was having the baby this week?!

 

I got to a really calm place today and decided that I'm just going to plan on 42 weeks, just as I did when I first found out.  My mother is flying in from Alaska on Thursday and she will be here for 2 1/2 weeks. She really wants the baby to come before or while she is here and she leaves a few days after I get to 43 weeks.  I was really stressing out and my sister (who carried to 43.5 weeks) put it very bluntly "She can get over it.  The baby will come when it's ready. It's her own fault for moving 2,000 miles away and buying a plane ticket and planning to arrive when you are only 41 weeks."

 

Sorry everyone is having a hard time but so glad to know I'm not alone (and have a place to vent!)

post #23 of 94
Wildmansmom--oy, i'm sorry you're having to deal with the stress of your mother being pushy angry.gif. I agree with your sister--its her choice to live so far away and its not your responsibility to try to please her. Your baby will come when he/she is ready, maybe tell her that if she thinks you're going to induce to make her happy.
post #24 of 94

My hubby and I went to the grocery store tonight to pick some stuff up and the elderly male checker looked at me and jovially said, "Wow, do you think you're gonna last five more minutes?"

 

Gee, thanks. Way to make a lady feel special on a stressful day. wink1.gif

 

I've been pretty reclusive the last few weeks but I think by the time this baby comes I am just going to be a full-on hermit. I told my husband today that if one more person asks me "When is that baby coming?" I think I am going to freeze, put my hand to my belly, look shocked, and say something like "Wow... maybe right now!" Just to see the looks on their faces. ;)

post #25 of 94
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Originally Posted by storygirlcindy View Post

I've been pretty reclusive the last few weeks but I think by the time this baby comes I am just going to be a full-on hermit. I told my husband today that if one more person asks me "When is that baby coming?" I think I am going to freeze, put my hand to my belly, look shocked, and say something like "Wow... maybe right now!" Just to see the looks on their faces. ;)

Or look embarrassed and say that you're not pregnant...  shrug.gif

post #26 of 94

LOL! That would be seriously awesome because boy, if I'm not pregnant there is something wrong with me! ;) I should totally start saying that.

 

(A pic - http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hi6mKwwDUhc/UTpn0tZyX8I/AAAAAAAAGRM/ztV8Pshn_n8/s1600/8March201309.jpg)

post #27 of 94

Oh, yeah, you definitely look pregnant.  No one would believe that you're just over weight...

post #28 of 94
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Originally Posted by storygirlcindy View Post

 

I've been pretty reclusive the last few weeks but I think by the time this baby comes I am just going to be a full-on hermit. I told my husband today that if one more person asks me "When is that baby coming?" I think I am going to freeze, put my hand to my belly, look shocked, and say something like "Wow... maybe right now!" Just to see the looks on their faces. ;)

 

I love this! lol.gif

post #29 of 94

Yeah scruffy - I am short with a long rib cage and a big baby, so she has been OUT from day 1! Especially after dropping. And I haven't gained much elsewhere so yeah, it's alllll belly! But I think that would make it even better... I am sure I would get some priceless looks if I pulled the shocked face and "But I'm not even pregnant!"

 

Chocolatechip - I know, I'm totally dying to do it now!

post #30 of 94
Aww, you're a cutie, storygirl, and there is no mistaking that pregnant belly!! lol.gif.
post #31 of 94
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Originally Posted by storygirlcindy View Post

My hubby and I went to the grocery store tonight to pick some stuff up and the elderly male checker looked at me and jovially said, "Wow, do you think you're gonna last five more minutes?"

Gee, thanks. Way to make a lady feel special on a stressful day. wink1.gif

I've been pretty reclusive the last few weeks but I think by the time this baby comes I am just going to be a full-on hermit. I told my husband today that if one more person asks me "When is that baby coming?" I think I am going to freeze, put my hand to my belly, look shocked, and say something like "Wow... maybe right now!" Just to see the looks on their faces. wink1.gif

DH wanted me to buy pregnancy tests when heavily pregnant.......just for his amusement smile.gif
post #32 of 94
Thread Starter 

So I just got back from my 41 week appointment and on one hand it was great (we checked out perfectly and baby finally rotated RA!) and on the other it was just terrible.  Pretty much the first thing the doctor said to me was "So, you'll be 41 weeks tomorrow, typically we like to induce between 41 and 42 weeks." AHHH! The dreaded "I" word!!

 

Then he proceeded to go through EVERY possible reason for induction except low amniotic fluid or fetal or maternal health issues as we were given an excellent bill of health (thank you, God!)

 

It went something like this:

 

Dr: You're 41 weeks tomorrow. 

me: yes, I realize that. First, I think my dates are off.

Dr: well they match up with your LMP perfectly...

me: yes, and I didn't ovulate on day 14...** Second, my family tends to be pregnant for 42 weeks. Third, I went 41.5 with my son.  By the way, I'm comfortable being 43 weeks pregnant if my tests are all good.

Dr: The ultrasound results were perfect, but your baby's heart rate isn't peaking and falling on the NST the way we would like.

me: yes, she's asleep...heavily.  (thank goodness the child woke up and cooperated and he couldn't use that as valid reason anymore)

Dr: You've got a big baby in there... 8lb 13oz... 85%.

me: yes, I asked the ultrasound tech for an estimate. I also know that weights can be off by 2 lbs this late in pregnancy.  I don't think she's that big.  Oh yeah, I've also already delivered a 9lb 5oz baby vaginally (a baby that I was told weighed about 8lb even at 41 weeks), so I think I'm good.

Dr: are you having contractions?

me: yes....

Dr: Can I check your cervix to see if anything ishappening? 

me: sure....

Dr: You're maybe 1 or 1/2 cm and the cervix is still "thick."  Well, that gives me a better idea of what type of induction we might want to schedule.  Since you aren't very dilated or effaced we would need to ripen the cervix, maybe break your water since the baby is still pretty high and then start Pitocin if your contractions don't pick up.  Let's have you repeat your amniotic fluid levels and NST on Monday and we can go ahead and put you on the schedule to be induced next weekend because I'm on call Saturday and Sunday."

 

Uhhh...WHAT? Did we not just finish a conversation in which I clearly stated that I DO NOT WANT TO BE INDUCED?

 

If I wasn't frustrated enough about everyone at work saying I'm "overdue" or asking "when are you having this baby?" now I have to fight the doctor as well?  I'm going to crawl in a hole and ignore everyone for the next 24 hours..... And I made my appointment next week with the only OB in the practice who seems to be comfortable with me going beyond 42 weeks. 


Edited by wildmansmom - 3/13/13 at 2:30pm
post #33 of 94

Goodness, WMM! That sounds SO frustrating. One big huge red flag stands out to me, as a now major veteran of NSTs (I have been getting them biweekly for 7 weeks now, I think?). If they weren't noticing the proper accelerations on the NST because baby was asleep, they should have done something about it. Every time that's happened to me (depending on when I schedule my NSTs they sometimes fall riiiight within my LO's favorite nap time!), the nurses have said "We aren't getting the accels we need. That's fine, and we know it's just because baby is sleeping, so let's try XYZ." You just have to wake them up a little bit and make sure they move a few times to get those accelerations. From what I understand of NSTs, if they didn't do that, your results are totally invalid, and that is DEFINITELY not a sign of fetal distress or reason to induce. 

 

For me, I've found the position I'm laying in during the test makes a big difference - if I lay in certain ways she tends to get really comfy and take a nice nap. If I try to shift around every few minutes she usually will stay awake. I'll also poke her. wink1.gif In a last resort, if they still don't wake up they will have you drink juice or eat something, or use a strange little buzzer (kind of like a vibrating massager, only more annoying) to wake them up. But anyway, my point is... if your baby is sleeping through the NST, as far as I understand, those results aren't really valid. Also, every time this has happened to me the nurses have all been VERY quick to say that it's not a sign of ANYTHING wrong with the baby, it's just a sign that she's asleep, and that they do need her to be awake at least part of the time to make sure that there isn't anything actually wrong. Are you scheduled to have another NST? If nothing else, I would really fight with the doctor over that point and request to have another one before those results were used to influence the decision to induce. Also, I might say point-blank that you don't care if he is on call to induce you, LOL. During my appointment yesterday where we discussed induction, my doctor's schedule also made things slightly more difficult (and because my pregnancy is rather unique I actually would prefer to have him handling things if I end up needing to be induced), but since he could tell that I was very uncomfortable with the dates he was initially proposing he actually suggested that if I wanted, I could just schedule it for a later time when one of the other doctors on call could do it. Obviously you are wanting to not schedule an induction (totally understandable), but it might make it clear to the OB that actually, it doesn't matter to you if he's there or not. ;)

 

Good luck! It sounds like it was such an aggravating visit! Oh, and my LO's weight estimate at 36 weeks was 8lb 5 already. blush.gif I'm hoping (and suspecting) that was a little high!!!

post #34 of 94
Uggh, wildmansmom, your doctor sounds like a jerk greensad.gif. First of all, the reasons he listed for inducing were invalid for you and your baby, you clearly showed him that. He didnt listen, just went right ahead with his plans, a huge red flag that you shouldnt trust him. I literally cringed when i read that he wants to ripen your cervix because its not dilated or effaced, break your waters because your baby is still high, and then start pitocin. All of that says he doesnt care one bit about your body's natural progression, the well-being of you or your baby since all of those interventions show neither of you are ready and will do more harm than good. It sounds like this is all just routine to him, might as well schedule it because its what's typically done and he'll be there this weekend so why not then? He's totally in his own world, i wouldnt trust him or go along with his BS, hopefully you'll get a different OB when you go into labor. Grrr, this makes me angry!!!
post #35 of 94

Wow, wildmansmom, that's... wild! I would be in the mood to sock someone in the nose after a conversation like that with my OB.

post #36 of 94

I think I would just stare at him for a while and then just say "No."  Repeat until it sinks in, and if he wants clarification, just say that the risk of a c-section following attempted induction with an unfavourable cervix is too high for your comfort level and there is no indication of any current harm to the baby of waiting longer.   If he persists, say something to the effect of "Respectfully, it sounds like you're trying to tell me that I'm not listening to what you're saying, but what I am saying is that you are not listening to me. I don't want an unnecessary induction and I don't want your on-call schedule to dictate my birth. Let's review what we agree on here, and then look at the statistical risks, given my current condition and the baby's status, of proceeding with an induction or waiting." 

 

Sometimes you have to talk to them like they're still students in med school. 

post #37 of 94
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Originally Posted by spughy View Post

Sometimes you have to talk to them like they're still students in med school. 

I think part of the problem is that this particular doctor is young (read: scared and inexperienced).  They don't quite know what to do with me since I transferred from midwife care at the birthing center. (a good think too, because I would be transferred for being post-dates in just a few days!)  I don't have a "routine doctor" who is in charge of me, although I'm going to remedy that situation if I'm still pregnant come Monday.

 

I was really quite shocked to have this doctor press so hard considering the 2 other partners I had already spoken with were fine with me continuing to at least 42 weeks as long as my testing was normal. Also think that I frustrated him when I countered everything he said with well-researched knowledge. 

 

Although we are still working on breaking DH's mentality that "The Doctor is God" he at least is supportive of what I want.  If I can get the OB to say that the baby is healthy DH will support me in not being induced.  I've made my appointment Monday with Dr. S (the most open-minded OB in the practice) and I'm going to ask him to take over complete management of my case. (mmm... pregnancy as a "case" now that's silly!)

 

sunshine: i hope i get a different doctor too!

 

storygirl: not only am I going to make it clear that I don't care if he's there, I'm going to make it known that I would rather have a different doctor if I am going to schedule an induction!

 

Wish me luck when I go back Monday armed with a "what if" worksheet, questions about my 2nd semester anatomy scan dates and the previously unknown first trimester ultrasound which dated me 5 days later than LMP....

post #38 of 94

As an aside.....

What I find fascinating is that the medical world still thinks of women's cycle as a regular 28 day cycle with ovulation on day 14.....

And plan everything around that.
 

post #39 of 94

Good luck, WMM! How early was your 1st tri ultrasound? I've been told (by OBs!) that even later in the 1st tri they are not necessarily reliable. 

 

Oh, and for anyone else who has had cycles that aren't the norm, here's what I did! I have VERY long cycles (due to chronic health issues) - the cycle I conceived was the shortest I have ever had in my life and I ovulated on day 24. I genuinely did not remember the first day of my LMP and knew that it was worthless information, so whenever I got asked for it in those first few weeks I said I had no clue, that it wasn't relevant anyway, I could prove that I'd ovulated on day 24 and not any earlier, and that I would be happy to supply my day of ovulation. Most people were just fine working with that; for the few who weren't, I gave them a "this is what it would have been if I'd had a normal cycle" number from 14 days before O. It did help that my 6 week dating and viability scan matched up perfectly to the info I'd provided. However, the later in pregnancy I got, the more my (80-90th %tile) baby grew and the more weeks she measured ahead, so they definitely became very unreliable as dating methods as time went on.

 

One of my friends just had a baby and had her EDD changed based on an ultrasound done at 24 weeks. I found that shocking and appalling, personally!!! If we'd gone off my 24 week ultrasound I think my due date would have been moved up by a good 2 weeks!

post #40 of 94
Thread Starter 
My first semester ultrasound was just shy of 7 weeks but only measured 6. It was within a 5 day window of LMP Whig is why they never questioned the EDD. But those 5 days could do me a lot of good now.
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