I'm sorry, but I really need to vent a bit about my MIL! She is usually super sweet, considerate, and has always minded her own business, and so this is all a bit out of character for her but man, she's driving me nuts! And part of it I"m sure is related to the fact that (depending how you calculate) my EDD is today or tomorrow and I'm getting a little antsy to meet this baby.
Today is the Persian New year (Norouz)...a BIG DEAL. Basically like Chrismas Day.
A few weeks ago, MIL started to talk about dinner plans for New Year's, and wanted to throw her traditional big dinner party with friends and family, and wanted to know if we'd go. We clearly stated that we couldn't predict anything and were not going to commit to anything, but that she should just go ahead and have her dinner party and if we were there we were there, and if not, well, not a big deal. But that was clearly unacceptable.....if we weren't going to be there for sure, then she didn't want to have the party. Fine. Her decision, not ours. We were completely ok with missing the party.
But this conversation was repeated on more than one occasion, as though she expected us to change our minds??
So we all agreed to have a big party when they come back from their trip (they are leaving for Sweden tomorrow...yeah, that's is adding another dimension to this story but for the sake of keeping things short and sweet I won't get into that!!), and that tonight we would just get together, the immediate family (MIL, FIL, BIL and SIL and us) and go out for dinner.
MIL slept over at our house last night because the roads were pretty bad and DP didn't want her to have to drive in the middle of the night to come here watch DD if I went in labor.
This morning, I'm explaining to DD that we're going to have dinner at a restaurant for Norouz. MIL is there, and she turns to DD and says: "We can't have a big party for Norouz this year..it's your baby brother's fault." WTH????
DP's take on this is that she is now regretting her decision to agree to go to Sweden just when her first grandson was due to be born; that she really expected him to be here early, and she'd see him before she'd leave, and now she is realising this is not going to be the case. Fine...I get that. But stop blaming the baby, especially in front of DD, and just admit you made a mistake and get on with it!!!!
ok...vent over. Thank you! I feel better!