Recently I seem to be getting a lot of questions about our two mama family, and I'm wondering what dumb things other people have experienced with that and how you respond. I have had THREE people ask me "So...who is the real mom" in the past month, so I think I need to start coming up with a good response. I want to convey to people that they are being offensive without being too snarkey, because for the most part they seem to be asking out of polite stupidity. I had a conversation like this the other day: "So, who is her real mom?" "Um, she has two moms" "I know, but who is the REAL mom?" "Do you mean who gave birth to her?" "Yes that's right, who is the real mom?" *sigh*
Also the other things I hear a lot are "But who is her dad?" and "What will you tell her when she asks why she doesn't have a dad?" Also, everyone wants to know how we got pregnant. Sometimes I don't mind that one, but don't have it be the first thing you say to me when you're introduced! I feel like sometimes people are just dumb and think they are making polite conversation, other times there is a little bit of an edge to the question, like they are about to start giving me a "family values" lecture.