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[Mosaic]

Are you going to find out the sex of your baby or will you wait until the big day? How did you decide?

[Serafina33]

I really need time to deal with the disappointment of having another son, if that's the case, so I must find out.  I want a daughter so bad.  I think if I had already one of each, THEN I would not find out/&enjoy the surprise because it really would not matter at all.  

[slammerkin]

I initially thought I wouldn't want to find out, but DH wants to and it's become less of an issue for me. Now I'd just rather know so we can get names lined up and be settled and comfortable with what we're having.

[revolting]

If we have an ultrasound, I will find out, but I don't plan to have an ultrasound this pregnancy.

[Shiloh]

I might let dp find out the task him with buying baby clothes. Its baby #5 I want something special about this one. I found out all other 4 babies. Regardless its "my last" so I don't want to feel disappointed (I will never have another x) and it gives me incentive to push lol

[DanielleNZ]

Planning to find out here for me it's for practicality reasons, for dh it will be a case of bonding with this baby if its a boy as he is really hoping for a daughter this time around.

[ciga]

I am so tempted this time around.  Last time I totally wanted a girl (mainly because I had very little experience with little boys) so I decided that rather than find out early and potentially be disappointed during my pregnancy we would keep it a surprise.  I knew that once I met the baby I wouldn't care what sex they were and that was totally true for me.  I was just so happy that my son was out and healthy that nothing else mattered and I really love parenting a little boy.  He is hilarious and so resilient.  

So, this time it might be neat to have a girl because I'm curious what a girl in our family would be like.  Would she be as much of a bulldozer as my son is? The same could be said for another boy, though.  Really either way would be cool.  Yes a girl might be a fun new experience but a little brother for my son would be pretty awesome too. In any case, I feel like since I know this is my last baby I don't really feel like spending 7 months trying to think of a good name for both sexes.  Like why bother coming up with a great boy's names that we are in love with if we're having a girl anyway.

Sorry for babbling about this, I've just been contemplating it a lot lately.   I really just have to convince my husband that we should find out this time, which shouldn't be too hard.

[HappiLeigh]

I like finding out. It doesn't take away any of the mystery of meeting the baby; the information is available, so I'd like to know it. :)  I totally don't care which it is--I have one of each already--but I do like to be able to shop for baby bargains and make baby crafties that are for the right gender babe.

I was going to find out at our 20 week ultrasound but my Dad just bought me a mail-order DNA test kit just because we thought the whole concept was kind of fun, so I guess we'll find out pretty soon. The kit is on it's way, and I basically prick my finger to bleed on a card, mail it back to the lab, and they test for male DNA. If there's any present, then it's a boy, and if not, it's a girl. I'm intrigued by the whole idea.

[echospiritwarrior]

Wild! You can find our from pricking your finger!?

[HappiLeigh]

Originally Posted by echospiritwarrior 

Wild! You can find our from pricking your finger!?

I know, right? I just think it's kind of cool. I guess we'll see if it really works...

[Shiloh]

How much?

[revolting]

I'm wondering what the false positive results (since it's testing for a y chromosome) is for mothers who have previously given birth to male babies. I know you're supposed to have fetal stems floating around from pregnancies that lasted more than 20 weeks for over a decade after you've given birth.

[DanielleNZ]

Happileigh how intriguing I will be very excited to hear your results. I am dying to know what gender we are having, not long until our 12 wk scan and I will be asking the soon graphed for some special shots for the nub theory. My cousin is pregnant and due two days before me, but pregnant with twins, which I was having dreams about so I wonder what she is having too.

[eloise24]

We'll find out (hopefully)!!  We have a son and daughter . . . but I'd rather have my "surprise" sooner rather than later.  Again, practical reasons . . . I don't like gender neutral clothing- if it's a girl we need lots of dresses, pink and ribbons!  If it's a boy, we need brown and blue!  Also our children's bedroom set-up will change depending on which one we have, and I'd like to have that all done well before baby! 

I can't wait until May (20 week scan)!!!!!!!!!!!!  I keep seeing cute things I want to buy :)

[HappiLeigh]

Ok, I did it! It cost 169 after all the fees, shipping, etc. The test came yesterday and I took it and mailed it back. Once they get it they will send me an email to tell me when my results are ready within 3-5 days. So it was actually a little more than a finger prick...the kit comes with this little card you have to put your blood on. I had to use two (included) lancets to prick two fingers and squeeze. Fortunately I'm not squeamish. Yes, the error margin of 5% includes possible residual male DNA from previous pregnancies or from the kit being contaminated while you're raking it. I had to clean the area around the kit before I opened it, clear the room of males, then keep all males out of the area while the blood dried on the card. So interesting! Again, this was just a total lark and my dad paid for it and I don't care what the baby is, but I really thought the whole thing was interesting and I can't wait for the results! I was a big nerd and took a picture of the kit and the bloody card and everything for Baby's baby book.

[echospiritwarrior]

Originally Posted by HappiLeigh 

Ok, I did it! It cost 169 after all the fees, shipping, etc. The test came yesterday and I took it and mailed it back. Once they get it they will send me an email to tell me when my results are ready within 3-5 days. So it was actually a little more than a finger prick...the kit comes with this little card you have to put your blood on. I had to use two (included) lancets to prick two fingers and squeeze. Fortunately I'm not squeamish. Yes, the error margin of 5% includes possible residual male DNA from previous pregnancies or from the kit being contaminated while you're raking it. I had to clean the area around the kit before I opened it, clear the room of males, then keep all males out of the area while the blood dried on the card. So interesting! Again, this was just a total lark and my dad paid for it and I don't care what the baby is, but I really thought the whole thing was interesting and I can't wait for the results! I was a big nerd and took a picture of the kit and the bloody card and everything for Baby's baby book.

Wow, I can't wait to hear the results! How interesting. I don't think I could un cling my 2 year old son from me long enough to take the test, besides, I like surprises!

[Shiloh]

I have had 3 sons, and my house is contaminated with the Y chromo. I'd have to go away to a cave naked! I will ask dp if he wants to know. I think a surprise might be best as I know I need a girl and I'm sure he wants a last son...

[HappiLeigh]

Ok, so I don't think this place was legit. They never sent the results.

Here's the Better Business rating and old Amazon reviews I should have googled for before. Oops!

Funny, I'm usually actually the skeptical one! Fortunately, my Dad isn't going to hurt from the lack of funds, or me from the lack of a few drops of blood and a stamp, and I still don't care if it's a boy or a girl. Guess I'll still have fun finding out...at my 20 week ultrasound. And I'll continue buying gender-neutral yarn for the eight weeks between now and then.

[DanielleNZ]

How annoying Happileigh! Here's hoping the next 8 weeks fly by, I'm dying to know what I'm having! 

[joanna47]

We never find out. It's more fun to get the surprise on delivery day, and I love hearing my husband tell me the baby's sex. :) I have two boys and two girls already so I have clothes for both, plus a ton of gender-neutral newborn stuff.