Hoping I can get some advice from people who have BTDT. We had our first baby six months ago, and as yet have not put together a will. I think we definitely need to, primarily to establish who will become the legal guardian of our son if anything should happen to us both. It hasn't come to the top of our priority list for all the usual reasons: we're young and reasonably healthy, we don't know where to start, we're busy, etc. We have briefly discussed ideas for guardianship, but haven't come to any conclusions.
Obviously, we would have to pick guardians before breaking the news to the people we didn't pick. Most likely we will name one set of parents (his or mine) as guardians at this point, since none of our siblings really seem to possess the right combination of financial stability and willingness to parent. But how do we let the other set of parents know we didn't pick them? Do we even need to tell them, given the relatively small chance of it ever mattering? We really have drama-free IL relationships - our moms like each other, we like each other's parents, nobody fights over who gets us for Christmas, etc., so I'd like to think it wouldn't be an issue. But I can see how saying, "We've decided x will be the best parents for Baby Bird if we can't be," could cause hurt feelings. Has anyone successfully navigated these waters before?