typebug - I second the recommendation to be pumping if you're not already. If baby isn't latching and sending the signals to your body that you need to make milk, send the signals with the pump every couple of hours. Even if you don't get anything out, keep sending the signals. If you do start producing, you can give it to him in a syringe or dropper. Keep resting, keep hydrated and keep eating. Hang in there!
This is our last baby and I'm totally fine with that. But when I'm in the newborn stages I never think about wanting another baby, so maybe I'll feel differently in a couple years. It was a hard labor this time and pregnancy, while not terrible, was painful and not easy. I'm not getting any younger. We both feel good about being done with babies after this one. DH will get a V at some point.
After 2 days of no dairy we had a slightly better night last night. It's amazing what an extra hour of sleep can do. We were in bed by 10:30 and her crying time was much less intense. She woke a few minutes later and just nursed back to sleep, so I'm sure I was asleep by 11.
She's still spitting up plenty (but gaining just fine) so I'm making an effort to wear her more instead of setting her down for naps and see if that helps. I'm wearing the stretchy wrap for the first time today and will attempt to nurse with her in it.
My older kids are doing okay. They have always had good and bad days together where they'll fight more or bug each other more. But baby and I are back in the family bed room now so I know they're waking earlier if she's fussing at 5:00 and they don't really go back to sleep after that. DS2 is an early bird anyway and he wakes up talking non-stop and will wake DS1 who will be grouchy if he hasn't gotten enough sleep. So we've had to do some earlier bed times with them to make up for it.
I'm finally done with the seemingly endless spotting, so DH will be thrilled that we'll be able to make time to dtd this weekend. I was feeling a little nervous about it and keep reminding him that he'll need to go slow. But then I remembered that I only had pain with sex after my hospital birth, in which I was not allowed to be upright for pushing. After DS2 I had no pain with sex so that very well may be the case this time, even though it was a much different labor. We shall see.