My dear grandmother died a little over a year ago. I had been living across the country when she had a stroke, and my mom advised me not to come out to see her as she was not aware of what was going on around her. She was like that for a few weeks, then she passed away in the hospital. My mom said she wasn't having a funeral for her, and that I shouldn't come out( I also was pregnant and have 2 other young children). So I didn't come home at all. Now, time has passed, and I feel sad and guilty and like there has been no closure with her death for me. She was an amazing woman, and I feel like she wasn't honored apropriately at her death. I feel like I haven't been able to greave with my family.
I was thinking about planning a family get together over the summer at my grandmothers old house( my mom lives there now). It would be a time to remember her, share stories, etc. Does anyone have ideas for some kind of ritual or ceremony to do to honor her and say goodbye in a beautiful way? Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing?