I love to get some feedback on this.
So, we have this really, really nice neighbor, D. K & I have been over to her apartment several times to hang out, we've talked about all kinds of stuff, she's shown me pictures of her grandkids & told me stories about them, given K stuff to play with, etc. She adores K, and he really likes her, too! I think she's great, as well. She has often offered to watch K, at her apartment or mine, so that I can get some time alone or so DH & I could have a night out. So far, we've declined, because the timing hasn't been right.
Today, she asked if she could take K out tomorrow morning in his running stroller. I said sure, but then she said, "And it's okay if he cries, we'll just work through it". I said that she could just call me if he cries, and I'd meet them wherever they are. She replied, "Oh, I'll definitely call you if he's really upset." I again asked her to call me if he cries at all, and she sort of vaguely agreed.
I can tell, from previous conversations, that she doesn't agree with AP. For example, when I mentioned K freaking out when I left him in our bedroom for a moment to go to the bathroom, she said, "Well, he just needs to learn to deal with that." She also expressed concern that I nursed him to sleep, and that we share a bed, because "he won't ever go to sleep by himself". I'm pretty sure, from other conversations, that she used CIO with her own kids.
I guess I'm just imagining a nightmare scenario where he's completely terrified and screaming for 45 minutes, and she's just going on with her walk, so that he can "learn to deal with it" or something. Am I just being a paranoid first time mom? Should I go with them? I don't want D to think I don't trust her, it's not that. I just don't want this to be a traumatic experience for K.
Any thoughts? Suggestions?