What are you doing for BC? « Back to Group Discussions

[sere234]

So here I am, with an almost 4 mo baby and DH has yet to figure out what we're doing for BC. I've left it in his hands for a few reasons: I was in charge for years and I'm done with the pill and charting. I have pretty low sexual drive now and sure, the intimacy with DH is nice but um, we never have time. DS2 won't sleep out of our arms after 7 pm. And FINAL reason: we're done having kids. No more babies for me so we need permanent birth control!! 

So DH researched vasectomies once and said there was a 30% chance of pain/problems so V was off the table for him. He said he'd look into it some more after I asked about the validity of that figure. But he hasn't. And he hates the feel of condoms. But the thought of having another baby is very much not in the plans for either of us. 

So what do we do? Fool around innocently, make out, ect. Generally while HOLDING a baby, blargh!  The holding a baby part will be over in a few months when DS2 sleeps better but what really bothers me is there is no plan yet. And DH has known for 1 year + that this is his choice and decision. 

Anyone else having this problem? You'd think we'd have it figured out by now but no. Maybe by the time DS2 is 1 yo?

[MrsKoehn]

Well, we want to have a big family, so it's not such a huge deal for us. We EBF, of course, do NFP and use condoms. Like you, I'm holding Ana a lot, and we're both so busy and tired, it just doesn't happen a lot.

[Simonsez2u]

I'm with you guys, we have little time for DTD.  Three kiddos under four will wear you out.  The spirit is willing but the body just isn't able.

This is our last little bub also.  I too have put birth control in DH's hands.  DH was going to schedule a V after this one was born but we both thought it might be a good idea to wait a year.   For now we are using condoms.  I am certain we are done but who knows what might happen. I figure if there is an opps it was meant to be.

[kparker]

I am for once happy to suffer infertility, because we don't have to worry about this ;P There is like a 0.0000000000000000001% chance of natural pregnancy, and those are low enough odds for me to just not bother.