Hi! Just joined the group and saw this nursing thread. I am nursing dd 16 mo. and she still nurses A LOT!!! It was very sore for awhile, but has calmed down. I am just trying to deal with her nursing more because my supply had dropped considerably. She shows no signs of weaning herself, so I think I will be tandem nursing, and trying to think of ways to prepare her for sharing mommie's nummies.
The constant night nursing is what gets painful still. Have you night weaned yet? I am playing with trying to night wean her, but she seams to still need it for comfort, and dh is having a hard time getting her back down if I don't nurse her when she wakes. Any ideas on night weaning?
I was tandeming both my DDs when I became pregnant, but I weaned my older DD when I found out. She was 4 and probably ready to wean anyhow, and I just needed a good excuse. My younger DD is extremely tactile and while I've cut down her sessions, I imagine she will tandem with the new baby as well.
Thanks, it's nice to hear someone else went through it too. I feel so bad, but night nursing is just too much for me right now, and I am still so tired with this pregnancy that any sleep lost is felt. I hope we get through the rough time quickly, but she just won't give up, and hubby ends up on the couch with her cause if she's anywhere near me, only nursing will do. Thanks again.
Aidenn, that's a good point. Dd is really tactial too, and spacial, so i think that plays into her need to nurse. How did you get first daughter ready for sharing?
orangeclover - When I was pregnant with DD2, I prepped DD1 by just saying that milkies were changing to make room for the new baby in mommy's tummy. She's always been really verbal, so she picked it up pretty logically. However, this time I've been super lazy preparing DD2 for this baby. DD2 isn't verbal hardly at all and she's very very spirited, so I haven't even bothered night weaning. I'm losing sleep to night nursing, but listening to her scream bloody murder (and before her, I had NO IDEA how loud kids could get!) for 45 minutes is worse, so I grit my teeth through the latch. I am not a good person to ask!
The screaming thing I totally understand! It is heartbreaking, and I normally give in, dh is much stronger. thanks for your info though. My 1st weaned himself when i was 2 months pregnant with#2, and started nursing again just a few times after dd was born, so wasn't something I really had to deal with before!
I am 14 weeks pregnant with #2 and still nursing DD who is 20 months. It was SO painful in the beginning that I started weaning during day time. Night time nursing kind of just stopped. If she asks to nurse at night or during the day I say, "Let's snuggle!" and she is pretty okay with that. I still nurse her at nap time and bedtime, which at this point is just dry nursing. Nap time she still falls asleep while nursing but at bedtime she will come in by me for a few minutes, nurse, and then go back out by dad and come to bed with him. At the bed time nursing she only nurses for a few minutes depending on our day and how I am feeling. If it's a busy day and she's gone without a nap, she might fall asleep nursing Sometimes I just get so touched out and am sick of being touched that I tell her I am gonna count to ten and then we are all done. I count on my hand so she can see and also out loud. That works really well for us. By ten she's ready to pop off and pulls my shirt down. By doing this, she's even started picking up counting and can count "one...two".
It works for us and she hasn't had any complaints or aggravations. Which to be honest surprises me cos she's always been such a boob-fiend. Once I start producing again we will see where the road takes us.
It would be nice to tandem nurse but I won't be devastated if we don't. I can see her weaning completely those first few days when it's just colostrum.
#1 I nursed until about 8 months pregnant with # 2 and she self-weaned around 2.5. I am nursing #2 (almost 2.5) at this point for maybe 5 minutes total daily and have very little milk. In fact, she tells me "no milky" daily. I would be shocked if she continues much longer. I am not sure if I would be interested in tandem nursing. I have some friends who have and they really regretted it, feeling it was too much touch, too demanding, etc. And of course others thought it made everything easier. We'll see...