trouble feeling amorous??

[MountainLovinMama]

Help! Ever since I get pg, my dh can't get enough - he loves my new curves (read bigger breasts), the excitement and intimacy of pregnancy, etc, etc. Under normal circumtances, this intense attraction and desire for intimacy would be flattering and, well, sexy. BUT...I am so naseous, fatigued, sometimes crampy or feeling pressure in my abdomen... I am not feeling as amorous as usual. And the worst thing is that I am so incredibly sensitive to smells. We both often favor spicy food and strong flavors - these days I am eating cream of wheat with peaches, plain cheese and avocado quesadillas (hold the salsa!! I can hardly write the word salsa without feeling like gagging!), plain toast, etc. If he has even the sublest hint of garlic or other spicy scent on his breath it sometimes churns my stomach. Anyone have any advice on how to feel sexy and amorous in the throes of the first trimester???

[Ravenmoon]

Well,no.I feel for you.I will advise some B vitamins(especially B6)in addition to Prenates and this will really help with your fatigue and nausea.I still have it to a degree but not too bad at all.

[Larissa]

I am never in the mood during my first trimesters...so, I just don't know what to tell you...once you get past all that nausea...watch out...because all of a sudden you will feel very sexy!

[laurata]

Uh, yeah. Right. A few things that would help.... Him brushing his teeth, putting the kids to bed, and then his butt in the air as he's scrubbing the kitchen floor. While I'm in the bathroom, taking a long, luxirious bath. However, since that'll never happen, it'll have to wait till June or July.

[taradt]

i'm with Laura :LOL

i lose ALL my drive for the first trimester, last trimester (and incidently for the first long few months of nursing)
poor DH jokes that once i get pregnant he is out of luck for a long while ;-p

tara

[MountainLovinMama]

Yeah, I like your idea too, Laura. I was actually thinking along the same lines..."Um, sweetie, if you really want to get some, let me take the evening 'off' while you do dinner (so I don't gag), put dd to bed (so I can conserve some energy...and take a long luxurious bath to get in the mood!) I remember my first pregnancy feeling very sexy - I don't know if I am having selective memory, or of this 1st timester is worse!

[DalaiMama]

I'm with all you guys. I'm just too darn tired! I'd much rather cuddle up and go to sleep than do anything more... um, strenuous. Hopefully it'll go away soon and I'll be more in the mood... I'm ashamed to say that the last time we did it was when we conceived. TMI? Anyways, I know I'll be back to feeling sexy by the time the 2nd trimester rolls around. I'll just wait out the tiredness.

[chasmyn]

I feel the same way. I know he wants to, but I'm just too tired for anything. Every now and again I'll feel a little like maybe, but if he isn't in the room when it happens, it goes away quickly. Poor guy.

[KoalaMommy]

You know, after my MW visit and exam yesterday, I have to say that I'm too sore and crampy to think about romantic encounters! I mean I was in pain while she poked at me. But DH is certainly very interested. I've always been curvy, so I don't know why, he can't explain it either, he just says I look sexier than ever. If I'd known I could walk around looking sexier with a bigger but and bigger belly, I wouldn't have worried for the last year about the weight I was gaining!!!!!

[lauren]

What I'm looking for is a big back massage, forget the rest! I'm with most of you, not into it, craving only sleep!

[Jessviola]

me!

i was feeling quite amorous until conception, then even in the 2ww i lost my drive completely. sometimes i think i could get in the mood, but the fatigue is really getting me. even if i did muster the mood, i don't think i could do much more than lay there i am sooooo tired. and i wake up still exhausted in the morning.

[mamamoo]

Ditto what laurata said!!! :LOL