Claudia, I'm so sorry you are having to keep such a wonderful part fo your life from your IL's. I also hate being inauthentic, it rips at me, but I also know that there are times when my well-being is more important than sharing everything with certain people. Luckily we are not super close to DH's family (physically or otherwise) so we haven't had to discuss it much with any of them. I think only a few of them even know of our plans and we've done nothing to clue them in. It makes me a bit sad, but I prefer it to the alternative of having uncomfortable conversations about it, or even possible hostility about it. Oh, and that pain you're having sounds a lot like what I get at the top of my oblique muscles. It's mostly an itchy feeling but can get to burn quite a bit. The muscles start at the bottom of your ribs and they can get bent at a bad angle when your belly starts poking out. And like Tanja said, the fear of the pain is really worse than the pain itself, especially if you can remember that it is all for a reason, that your body is working in a specific way to bring your baby out
And walking out the door might get a bit more complicated, but you can still have lazy days, at least for a year or 2
JK, once Ben got old enough to demand getting up to play, we found ways to keep it relaxed for ourselves, the baby is fitting into your life, and things do change, but you are the ones who ultimately guide it.