Ok, so...my son has reached the age where he wants his skin free and exposed. This isn't a problem as far as his butt goes, as he is EC'd, and at this current time doesn't mind underwear being on. But shirts, pants, socks, nuh uh. I try to follow the Gentle Discipline method, I try to trust what he's trying to tell me(he isn't verbal), and let him make his own decisions about his body, unless it's dangerous. So, with this whole naked time... when he wants them off, I take them off. Apparently, this is receiving the opinion from my parents, and my in-laws...and my fiance... that I'm letting him "get his own way" and setting life up as being real difficult because he's going to think he can do whatever he wants, and blah blah blah. Which, no, I do not.. if there are things he wants to do that are either dangerous, or otherwise unacceptable, I don't let him do it. As far as food, drink, temperature, and pottying go.. I try to trust him(which is difficult in this society... since we are taught Parents Know Best), and let him make his decisions.
I'm looking at this naked thing as the only one that knows why he doesn't want them on, is himself. The reasoning could range anywhere from being the fibers bother him(though I stick with 100% cotton), the tightness is bothering him(I've tried bigger shirts and he still wants them off), or perhaps he is just too hot. For all we know, his body runs at a higher temperature and he's just...overheated. He even sleeps butt naked in our chilly, chilly bedroom. Doesn't bother him a bit.
But no one sees this that way. They think it's just pure power struggle.
I guess I'm just...trying to vent. My fiance and I know we will never likely agree on the form of discipline, or how we see our children, and I just wish.. that we could. But he views them, and discipline, the way his parents do...which is very modern. And I, for whatever reason..don't. I see it differently and I can't explain it well enough for anyone else to give me two cents of their attention, except for my mom, but I'm not sure if she says she can see it just to humor me or not...