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[suzie mccool]

Hi everyone :)  Having a crazy stress week with funeral arrangements and family arriving from overseas... forgot to even look for a new thread!

Happy (late) birthday Shiloh & Serenyd!! 

So nice to hear people talking about the things they love about being pregnant :)  This week the focus for us has been on anything but, so it's really good to forget about everything else for a minute and just think about things like this... I just loved being pregnant the first time round with my son, but I was so much younger and had nothing that ached back then LOL.. So far I just love that IVF worked, and I can't bring myself to resent any part of it because it was a bit of a journey to get here.  I'm sure that will change as time goes by though haha..

I've also completely cut out real coffee, but have been drinking decaf, just for the ritual of having a cuppa with DH.  It's pretty awful to tell the truth though :)  I have no deli meats unless they are hot (like on a pizza) and no soft cheeses.  Apparently broccoli is now a complete no-no for pregnant women!  I'm so glad to have that excuse - I hate it LOL

Had my downs screening blood test today, but have to wait til Monday to get the result, as the funeral is Friday.  Expecting to be high risk (I was with my son) so it's more how high the risk is that will be my concern, rather than if. 
 

[dahlia810]

Hi Suzie, hope you've been able to relax a bit with all the craziness going on! Fingers crossed for you that your risk assessment isn't high!

Broccoli too!!!? Why!? I love broccoli, and have trouble justifying cutting fruits and veggies out of my diet without good reason haha.

[Shiloh]

Broccoli?

[Serafina33]

Broccoli can be steamed very hot for a few minutes and they are still nice and crunchy, but everything would have died.  Just a thought.

I'm feeling like a leper with everyone ignoring my pinworm post.  C'mon, I can't go telling people IRL about this as unabashedly, I really need to vent about it with awesome MDCers (who aren't concerned for a second that they'll catch it from us)!  

[Shiloh]

I'm parasite phobic.
Can't talk about worms, lice, etc.
I start itching. You get my virtual hugs.

[revolting]

Serafina - Trying to forget the up to 80% statistic you threw out.
AFM: So sick this morning I couldn't keep down water, and now I have an awful headache from all the puking/dehydration. I'm 10 weeks today, so sort of at the peak of morning sickness. Hoping my partner feels up to taking care of much of the evening for me. I just feel awful!

[Serenyd]

So I went to the DR today and there's no baby. Just an empty sac. Baby didn't develop. My body just realized it and is trying to expel the sac and lining of my uterus. I'm super-sad and disappointed, but life goes on. I *might* try again if DP is game, later on in the summer. I think they are going to want to do a D&C, and I'd rather not, but the radiologist who did my ultrasound said I could bleed for a long time if I don't have it. I'm not sure what to do. 

[dahlia810]

Oh, Serenyd, I'm so, so, sorry to hear that. Big, huge hugs to you, and lots of healing thoughts and love sent your way.

[revolting]

So so sorry for your loss. Whether to have surgery or let the baby pass naturally is a very personal decision. Do you have childcare? Someone to support you through the miscarriage? How much of the D&C will your insurance cover? Will your care provider give you a prescription for pain meds? Again, so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[Shiloh]

Hugs serenyd.
Follow what your body is telling you.
(It can change its mind too)

[ciga]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear such sad news Serenyd. I hope your able to heal quickly physically and emotionally. Big hugs

[DanielleNZ]

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Oh Serenyd I am so so sorry to read that. What a shock. Be kind and gentle with yourself, do what feels right. Thinking of you! 

Have had a bit of a lousy day energy wise, I'm exhausted. 

[joanna47]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Serenyd.

[echospiritwarrior]

Serenyd

I must have missed the parasite post. That sounds awful

[delicate_sunshine]

Hugs, Serenyd.  I don't know what else to say.

[aloya]

I'm so sorry, Serenyd. So sad to be together with you in this experience. My previous miscarriage was a missed miscarriage with a D&C, so now I unfortunately understand both ways of this sad end. I've messaged you--feel free to respond, or not, of course, depending on how you are. Be gentle with yourself.

xoxo

[suzie mccool]

Serenyd I'm so sorry!  My heart goes out to you xxx 
 

[Serafina33]

Oh my goodness, Serenyd, I'm so sorry too.  I feel my stress over pinworms to be very tiny and harmless indeed compared to what kind of stuff that can happen in your body that can *actually* rock your world.  Be good to yourself and follow your instincts.

[John16n33]

Serenyd I am so so sorry.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[HappiLeigh]

Hugs and peace to you, Serenyd.

Suzie, good luck getting through all the funeral stuff.

Serafina, I don't feel like I saw a pinworm post? But I'm sorry. If someone has them, even a mild case in children is supposed to protect against all kinds of crazy intestinal problems later in life like Crohns disease and irritable bowel. Silver lining?

I've been feeling a bit better lately, kind of crawling out from under this first trimester rock. Doing a little more, staying on top of a little more...life is improving. I was reading through about the things people like and don't like about pregnancy. I think I've already confessed that I'm the pregnancy curmudgeon. I just like the baby part at the end. I don't like feeling the baby move either (I mean, with previous pregnancies--haven't felt this one yet); it gives me a queasy feeling. I'm an awful pregnant woman. :) I like making baby stuff, though! So I'll go with that.

Caffeine, etc...sorry, but the baby would basically have to pry my coffee cup out of my cold, dead hands.   I just drink one cup in the morning and tea in the afternoon--that seems perfectly reasonable to me. I get enough calcium. I'll drink a little wine, too--just a small amount. I have no desire to be a pregnancy martyr. It's one thing to avoid foods that can cause diseases that are harmful to the fetus (like listeria from cold deli meats), and another thing to completely avoid foods that are actually totally fine in small doses. But hey, this is my third kid...