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[Shiloh]

I'm the new moderator.
I'm not as good as the last one although we share a birthday (march 18)
Give me some slack I just went back to work after 3 months off so I won't get around to things for a few days.
I will miss you Serenyd and think of you often.

AFM I'm a hormonal exhaustion bag of boobs and bloat. I'm under 10 weeks but look 4. I know 6th pregnancy. But really my first baby I didn't show until like six. Work is good. Exhausting but paying the bills. DP is ignoring my request for him to take time off work to come to my 1st official midwife appointment . I got to sit on this egg 24x7 and an hour is seeming to be too much?

[DanielleNZ]

Shiloh I think your fantastic for taking on the moderator status! You'll do great! I really think men find it hard to connect with pregnancy until its visible and they can feel baby move. I hope he comes around!

Thinking of you Serenyd I hope you are doing ok! Huge hugs! 

Just had my in- laws pop in and we checked on baby who thankfully has a lovely strong heartbeat of 170bpm .I got really paranoid after having a bit of pain today and some odd discharge. Also had my mss1 bloods drawn today to go with the Nuchal scan next week so keeping everything crossed they come back all ok.

off to catch an early night.... Again :-(

[John16n33]

Can I have a little whiny rant please?  I was in Hawaii with Dh for 7 months.  I asked him on numerous occasions to go with me to the Pearl Harbor memorial and he wouldn't, he said he had no interest in it.  So now here I am in Texas finishing my student teaching and his mom and memaw go visit him.  What does he do?  He takes them to Pearl Harbor.  Oh and last night he paid 76.00 (they did pay their own way) to take a dinner cruise with them.  I know it's his mom and memaw, and I love them, but he never wants to do anything like that with me.  On top of that we were planning on paying off the rest of my tuition this month (about 250.00) with what we would save from this paycheck because he insisted they weren't going to do all this expensive stuff while they visited (btw, I would have just budgeted differently if he had told me about any of this beforehand-but we had planned to use this money for my school so that's where my mind was) but that's literally all they have done according to our bank account :(

Maybe it's the hormones but I honestly might cry if I don't get to pay off my tuition this month.  That will leave us with only 3 debts left to get rid of and I am ready to be done with one more.

[revolting]

Shiloh - Thanks for stepping up! You'll rock it! That sucks that he won't go with you to your appointment.
Serenyd - Thinking of you.
Danielle - Glad to hear you have a nice strong heartbeat. Hope your scan and test go well!
John - I'd be angry! That totally sucks. I hope your day is going better.
AFM: Kicking myself for not immediately intervening when I saw my three year old had my keys. He no longer remembers where he put them, and after scouring the house, I still can't find them. Grr! On the upside, my morning sickness is better. I've been living off of juice and crackers the last two days.

[Maine Mama]

Serenyd, thinking of you today.  I'm so sorry for your loss.

Serafina, I can remember dealing with pinworms as a child. It was a real hassle for my mother, but it didn't take long for them to clear my system, and she didn't have any major issues with the house (sheets, clothes, etc.). Good luck!

My favorite parts of pregnancy are finding out (I will never forget my racing heart with either of my three BFP's), making the announcement, and feeling my baby move. I also love reading birth stories, and anticipating the labor. I'm a birth junkie. Even the experience of my own labors has been extremely rewarding.

Least favorite parts are yet to be seen. Morning sickness is annoying, especially this time. And feeling exhausted. But I really had very easy pregnancies for my first two and know that this one will be more of a challenge. I now have herniated discs in my lower back and a very recently healed hernia repair that will likely not hold through this pregnancy. So I guess my least favorite part of THIS pregnancy is anticipating that pain. 

As for coffee, I wasn't drinking any up until three days ago, but suddenly I started feeling a bit better and thought that reinstating my morning cup might help me accomplish more throughout the day. It has. My laundry is finally manageable, and my house is no longer a complete disaster. Nothing more draining to me than being exhausted, seeing food crumbs/debris tracked across my floors, and feeling totally incapable of dealing with it. We'll see if the morning cup sticks around. I drank it throughout my last pregnancy and had no issues. Gideon never seemed to have difficulty dealing with the caffeine while nursing, either.

[Serenyd]

Thanks Shiloh for stepping up and taking over. I'm going to miss everyone here and miss sharing with you all. I hope you all have wonderful pregnancies and births. 

I had quite a lot of bleeding and clots Thursday morning. I was hoping everything would be expelled naturally and I could avoid a D&C, but unfortunately I found myself struggling to maintain consciousness in a sitting or upright position and realized I had lost too much blood, too quickly, and needed to seek help. Upon arriving at the ER they discovered my blood pressure and oxygen levels were quite low, but that was easily rectified with some IV fluids and 02. The ER doc tried to remove "the products of conception" from my uterus and stop the bleeding, but he wasn't able to get it all and I ended up needing a D&C anyway. They gave me albumin before the surgery to bring my blood pressure up, but the doctor decided against giving me blood since I am "young and healthy." I'm still pretty weak, and no joke, I am sore all over today. I guess they flipped and flopped me around a good bit getting me in the right position to do the surgery. Even my jaw and throat hurt from being intubated. I am hoping to TTC again later on in the summer when I have healed. I am not looking forward to going through the first trimester again. I do feel a bit cheated, but I know others have gone through this, and worse. I DO appreciate everyone's support and I am sad to say goodbye.

Best wishes to all,

Serenyd

[dahlia810]

Lots of love and healing is being sent your way serenyd. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to go through this. Best wishes if you decide to ttc in the future.

[Shiloh]

Dp is coming.
Serenyd I will pm you.
D&C's suck

[emconnell]

i just joined the group--

favorite parts are getting to know the baby before she even arrives--feeling her move & hiccup & knowing her routine :)

least favorite part--the whole first trimester & i swell up in the end no matter what...i do not like losing my ankles.

i've been in denial about this pregnancy--a 4th & COMPLETELY unplanned pregnancy (apparently it is not uncommon to ovulate twice in a cycle--so much for the rhythm method which i was using until i could figure out a better birth control) at 42 years...yikes...but here i am.  i am looking forward to the 2nd trimester (one more week) when i will stop feeling as nauseated & as terrified all the time.  1st trimester hormones are wreaking havoc with me.

i will be finally meeting with a midwife this week.

i'm telling my kids tomorrow.  the 5 year old will love it & the 7 year old will hate it...especially since he thinks i don't spend enough time with him as it is...sigh.  & the baby won't get to be the baby for as long as i'd hoped she would get to be....

i haven't told anyone else because i'm afraid of what people will say.
 

Edited by emconnell - 3/23/13 at 5:37pm

[dahlia810]

Welcome, Em, and congrats! Good luck with your midwife appt, is this the first time you'll possibly hear the heartbeat?

[echospiritwarrior]

Originally Posted by emconnell 

i just joined the group--

favorite parts are getting to know the baby before she even arrives--feeling her move & hiccup & knowing her routine :)

least favorite part--the whole first trimester & i swell up in the end no matter what...i do not like losing my ankles.

i've been in denial about this pregnancy--a 4th & COMPLETELY unplanned pregnancy (apparently it is not uncommon to ovulate twice in a cycle--so much for the rhythm method which i was using until i could figure out a better birth control) at 42 years...yikes...but here i am.  i am looking forward to the 2nd trimester (one more week) when i will stop feeling as nauseated & as terrified all the time.  1st trimester hormones are wreaking havoc with me.

i will be finally meeting with a midwife this week.

i'm telling my kids tomorrow.  the 5 year old will love it & the 7 year old will hate it...especially since he thinks i don't spend enough time with him as it is...sigh.  & the baby won't get to be the baby for as long as i'd hoped she would get to be....

i haven't told anyone else because i'm afraid of what people will say.
 

Welcome! Our children appear to be spaced very much the same. My husband and I have two daughters aged 7 and 5 and our son just turned two.

sending you loving and sweet healing thoughts Serenyd.

[gracisue]

I'm new to this group, so hi everyone!

My favourite thing about pregnancy...that's tough. I love being pregnant once I'm past the first trimester! The birth is my favourite, so I guess that's my answer, but I also love (like everyone else)feeling the baby move and getting to know him inside of me. I also love my pregnant belly! I just think pregnant women are so beautiful!

My least favourite part...I would have said the nausea before my miscarriages (I've had two). Now it's the intense anxiety I feel for the entire first trimester! Now I find the nausea reassuring, despite the fact that I know that a woman can feel nauseous and still miscarry. I have to cling to what I can to keep me sane!

I'm extra anxious right now because I'm at the point in my pregnancy where I miscarried the second time. The first time was (physically) very easy and it was very early...I had pretty much just found out I was pregnant. It wasn't as difficult to deal with as I had anticipated. The second was horrible and traumatic for me. The anniversary of it is coming up too, and I'm wondering if being in my first trimester at this time of year was such a great idea! We weren't really trying, but we weren't preventing either, so I knew it was a possibility. I had one other pregnancy since (and had a beautiful, healthy baby boy!) and I was able to relax a little once I heard a heartbeat. My first appointment with my midwife is a week from tomorrow and the days are creeping by. I don't think time has ever moved so slowly! And I don't even know if she'll be able to pick up the heartbeat yet! Hopefully, if I'm that anxious, my dear sister-in-law (who is a midwife, but not my midwife) will come give a listen inbetween appointments if I don't hear it. Anyway, sorry for going on and on. It's been on my mind a lot lately, obviously.

Serenyd, I don't know if you'll read this, but your story sounds very similar to my second miscarriage. I am deeply sorry that you have had to (and are continuing to have to) go through this. Give yourself time to rest and heal. When you are ready to try again, I sincerely hope that you are blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby.

[John16n33]

Hello emconnell, hello gracisue! Welcome to the group!

My baby girl is turning 5 today! I am consoling myself by saying she isn't technically 5 until 1:15 this afternoon lol.  I got up and made muffins early and then woke her up with a candle in her muffin and singing happy birthday (it's a tradition) and then I read her one of her birthday books.  Right now I am allowing her to watch spongebob (a rare, rare treat) and then later we are going to go out to my grandparents house since it is also my grandpa's birthday too.  Maybe it's the hormones but I am close to tears 1-knowing I am now the mom of a 5 year old and 2-because this is her last birthday as an only child.   Where has time gone?

[DanielleNZ]

Welcome to the new ladies! Great to have you here! 

Well I am officially 12 weeks today! Supposed to be a reassuring milestone but waking up with a heap of brown discharge (sorry tmi) was not in the plan. Have had a massive weekend, which ended very stressfully so I am hoping to god that is the reason for it. 

Only 3more sleeps until our next ultrasound. 

[Shiloh]

Sorry Dnz you are having brown discharge.
Worry is hard, when there's nothing we can do. I hope you put your feet up when you can. And praying your scan is perfect!

[DanielleNZ]

Thanks Shiloh, it wasn't the best way to start the day that's for sure but we have had nothing since so I am feeling hopeful and will get an early night tonight. I am impatiently waiting for the next few weeks to go by, I can't wait for that daily reassurance of movement that this wee bub is alright. The anxiety that has accompanied this pregnancy has really put a dampener on things. Still needing a nap each day but its better than feeling ill. 

How are you ladies all doing?

[suzie mccool]

Danielle I'm with you for the daily assurance!  I remember how much more secure I felt when the daily movements began :)  Hope you're feeling nice and mellow and getting loads of rest x

Just found out I have to wait for the first trimester scan in 2 weeks to find out the results from my last Wednesday blood test for down syndrome etc.. bah!   Like I need more stress LOL   But feeling better now I'm past 10 weeks.  Loving my new pregnancy doctor too - he's hilarious and seems to know his stuff so we will get on fine, what a relief!  He is unconcerned with my age, my awful weight gain from IVF or anything like that, which makes me so much happier as I expected to get some grief for both haha..

My MILs funeral was lovely and very sad for everyone.  After such a traumatic fortnight I'm glad to say that DH has dealt with it all like a legend and all is well on the home front. 

Again, thanks to you all for your concern and support xx

Big welcome to the new girls too!! 
 

[slammerkin]

Welcome to the new ladies!

I feel like a bad community member for not posting much, but I read all of your updates every day. :)

I am so happy to report that nausea is gradually diminishing. I still feel it a little bit when I get hungry, but haven't thrown up in over a week, and much less picky about food, and just don't generally feel so crappy all the time. I finally tried drinking a cup of tea this weekend (used to have at least one cup a day before BFP, but in the recent weeks I couldn't stomach the thought of it) and it was delicious! So nice to be able to have tea with DH again. He's Irish so he loves his tea, and he thought it was terrible that I couldn't stand it anymore, lol.

We had my Dad over for lunch on Sunday to show him our new house and share the news. We took him on a tour and I had pinned my 8-week ultrasound pic to the wall in the small bedroom that will become baby's room. Took him a minute to notice it, but it was kinda funny when he did. He's not a "gusher" but he seemed pleased. He apparently had a feeling it was coming because I bailed on a lunch date with him and a visiting cousin a few weeks ago when I was feeling too icky. Everybody seems to be anticipating my news before I share it with them! Having him over meant we also did a lot of work the day before putting things away and setting things up, so the house is looking much better than it did before! One month in the house now and it finally feels a little bit like "home."

I have my NT scan on Weds!

[Shiloh]

DP and I had our first mw appointment.

I am 9+4 days, she thought she heard the hb on the doppler in the same spot as last week.

But it was fleeting and she only spent about 3 minutes looking and said before 12 weeks she doesn't worry.
She offered me an ultrasound but i said if its just for my anxiety and not clinically necessary I will skip it.

But now I am feeling more anxious.  My IPS should be in two - four weeks so i will know then I guess.

Its funny I am still in denial I am pregnant so part of me is okay with not 100% being sure I heard the heartbeat.

hormones are killing my sanity.

[DanielleNZ]

A bit quiet around these parts today I really hope everyone is doing ok!

Suzie I am so pleased to hear things are calming down after the hectic few weeks you have had, ahhhh yes those are the combined screening bloods helps make the Nuchal scan more effective. Had mine last week too. Will see bub on Thursday night though yay! 

Slammerkin, I'm so happy to hear that your morning sickness is easing, it can be so debilitating. What a cute way to tell your dad! And yay for drinking tea again. Us kiwi's do rather enjoy a good brew. 

Insanely productive day, actually starting to feel normal. It almost seems surreal after feeling so low and weak for so many weeks. My dh just arrived home! Yay!