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[ultrafighter]

It seems like most everyone in here is on some babe other than their first, so I wanted to create a thread for fellow FTMs.  It doesn't mean you wiser-in-baby-ways mamas aren't welcome!  In fact, I look forward to hearing your FTM advice. 

[superbeans]

This will be my first birth and my first newborn.... So I'm a little apprehensive about it! Thanks for starting this thread 

[JonesiesGirl]

Thanks for starting this! It's my first as well. I'm 7 weeks today but it still doesn't feel real. 

[ultrafighter]

I'm 5w2d, and other than sore boobies and some increased irritability, I don't feel much different.  All I can compare to is pre-pregnancy feelings!  I have pictures of the tests (digital) so I know this is real.  Just doesn't feel like it yet.

[superbeans]

I'm 8 weeks and it still doesn't feel real! The only time it feels real is when I'm hovered over the toilet. But that only lasts for a minute or so and then its back to "is this real?" I am thankful I don't have severe morning sickness, but honestly when my morning sickness does hit (every other day or so) thats the only time it feels real to me!! And that precious moment of seeing the heart beat last week. I am so glad they give you a copy of your ultrasound because I have been pulling it out from time to time to remind myself this isn't a dream.

[fsqlib]

Hello everyone! I'm 6w5d, and it still doesn't feel real for me either. 

[JonesiesGirl]

Experiencing symptoms hasn't made it more real for me. My worst symptom is really awful nausea (but luckily no puking yet), but I still look the same and November just feels so far off. I have been having a good time picking out baby gear and deciding what we do and don't want. I'm surprised at how much stuff there is out there!

[andi-mama]

Originally Posted by JonesiesGirl 

 November just feels so far off

I remember this feeling so very well from my first baby (who is almost seven!). The months seemed to drag by and I could not WAIT for the month he was due to arrive! I know it's hard but try to enjoy each stage you're at because you'll only get to do it once with this baby. Believe me, your pregnancy will fly by and time definitely won't slow down once it's over! 

[jjh5351]

I'm a first timer too! 5w4 days today. Just a little nausea and super sore boobs today so it doesn't feel real either! I did wake up in the middle of the night last night RAVENOUSLY hungry though... Pregnancy symptoms? Maybe haha

[clovebucket]

Have any of you read a particular pregnancy book that has inspired you? I have read quite a few, but if I had to recommend one, it would be Orgasmic Birth by Elizabeth Davis/Debra Pascali-Bonaro. Whether or not one hopes for an 'orgasmic birth' (which may seem outlandish to some!) the book might be just as appropriately titled Holistic Pregnancy. It's a beautiful, informative and inspiring book with many anecdotes/quotes that will warm your  heart and help instill you with a sense of power, knowing and anticipation! Out of all the books I've read, this one gives me the happiest feeling after rereading some of it pages at random.

[ultrafighter]

jjh, I saw my MW on Tuesday, and she was asking me how I was feeling at the beginning of our visit.  I told her that aside from general laziness and sore boobs I didn't really feel much different but that I was having to mentally remind myself that I have a new life inside.  She got up for a second and went to another room close by, and when she came back I could tell she had something in her hand, but she had it covered up too well for me to see it.  Then she said, "At 12 weeks, this is what your baby is going to look like," and she put this little to-scale plastic doll in my hand.  I couldn't stop staring at it with this goofy grin on my face.  That made it real for me in a way I can even explain, this little piece of plastic!  I also fell instantly in love with this tiny almost-grape inside me. 

[superbeans]

I had a dream last night that the baby was born now (it was full term, in my dream I had my dates wrong... very wrong apparently!)

Anyways in the dream I kept trying to breastfeed and couldn't! Nothing was coming out. The baby kept getting smaller and smaller, clearly not healthy. Thankfully I woke up before anything drastic happened. But of course I woke up in a panic about breastfeeding. What if I can't do it? I'll be back at work pretty soon after baby (financially I have to), so what if I can't pump enough? I have a friend who really wanted to breastfeed and no matter what she did her milk just wouldn't come in. Eventually she formula fed but all the other mothers made her feel terrible about it!! For some reason I'm very nervous about failing at breastfeeding. Just wanted to vent about my panic to you ladies.

[ultrafighter]

It's okay, superbeans!  We are all going to be stellar at it (positive thinking eh) both newbies and non newbies!

My huge fear is screwing up during pregnancy (not eating well/enough, coming into contact with anything, etc) and causing some sort of problem or deformity.  I think my MW is making me paranoid about my diet.  Of course I want to give baby the best, but what if I'm not capable??  I've always had issues with willpower and eating, but for pete's sake this is the time to clean it up!  I've been bad for so long that what if I can't change?  There's my fearful vent....

[jjh5351]

Originally Posted by ultrafighter 

jjh, I saw my MW on Tuesday, and she was asking me how I was feeling at the beginning of our visit.  I told her that aside from general laziness and sore boobs I didn't really feel much different but that I was having to mentally remind myself that I have a new life inside.  She got up for a second and went to another room close by, and when she came back I could tell she had something in her hand, but she had it covered up too well for me to see it.  Then she said, "At 12 weeks, this is what your baby is going to look like," and she put this little to-scale plastic doll in my hand.  I couldn't stop staring at it with this goofy grin on my face.  That made it real for me in a way I can even explain, this little piece of plastic!  I also fell instantly in love with this tiny almost-grape inside me. 

Aww adorable as far as the eating, I wouldn't stress yourself out about it too much. Obviously healthy is better but there are people out there with perfect babies that did not do things right AT ALL during their pregnancies. As long as you're trying your best it'll be perfect

Originally Posted by superbeans 

I had a dream last night that the baby was born now (it was full term, in my dream I had my dates wrong... very wrong apparently!)

Anyways in the dream I kept trying to breastfeed and couldn't! Nothing was coming out. The baby kept getting smaller and smaller, clearly not healthy. Thankfully I woke up before anything drastic happened. But of course I woke up in a panic about breastfeeding. What if I can't do it? I'll be back at work pretty soon after baby (financially I have to), so what if I can't pump enough? I have a friend who really wanted to breastfeed and no matter what she did her milk just wouldn't come in. Eventually she formula fed but all the other mothers made her feel terrible about it!! For some reason I'm very nervous about failing at breastfeeding. Just wanted to vent about my panic to you ladies.

I had the same type of dream!!' Except I woke up during the middle of it but it was so scary :/ stupid pregnancy dreams!