My DD is 14 months old, and I've been feeling very conflicted ever since her first birthday. We have had a very intense routine from the beginning - she naps while being held or worn, and she breastfeeds throughout the night. When she was a newborn, ,it felt normal. Now that she's entering toddlerhood, I'm starting to feel like some of these habits are getting a little old. In part, I'm feeling pressure from family - even DH says things like, "Well, she's a year old now, so it's time to be a big girl..." and grandparents say, "Now, now, I know you don't want to hear this, but at some point you're going to have to wean..." Stuff like that.
Maybe I'm giving in to the pressure. But also, it's starting to feel a little silly. This growing girl who can lead me to the shelf and hand me the box of crackers, can't understand naptime? Sometimes I feel like she's outgrown my parenting, and I'm still treating her like an infant. I look ahead at the school years, about her reading books in her room before bed like I did as a girl, and I can't imagine how we get THERE from HERE.
Can you please set me straight about what's normal for this age? How did you all transition into more big-kid routines? What do years 2-3 look like in terms of parenting transitions?