I gave birth to my son (first baby, fourth pregnancy) a little over two weeks ago. TMI-- My stitches come out tomorrow, bleeding is negligible, and hubby has an itch that only I can scratch. All 4 times I got pregnant, I was using some form of birth control. MC#1 was while I had the Mirena IUD, MC#2 happened while I was on the patch, MC#3 and DS#1 while using condoms and/or withdrawal w/ FAM (used rather loosely). Hubby and I both hate condoms, and since it seems that hormonal bc methods do nothing good for me (I get pregnant anyway, and lose my babies), we are thinking that when we resume dtd, we are going to use withdrawal and NFP/FAM. We know there's a chance we will end up conceiving #2, and we can live with that if it happens, but ideally, we'd like to wait a few years.
My question is this: how does NFP/FAM work while exclusively breastfeeding? If I am not cycling, how am I to know when I am fertile and when to abstain from sex? He's going to pull out every time, but how am I supposed to know when to let him down easy if I am not sure when/if I am ovulating?
I am sure this is a silly question, but like the title says, I am new to all of this. Any help is much appreciated! Thank you!