To get where you are today as a single parent?
For me, I the hardest thing I had to give up was our dog. He was 119lbs and no apartment complex would take him nor would any rentals. It was so hard but I was able to place him in a lovely home and I do get to see him now and then and he is thriving. It broke my heart because I tried for 4 months to find the right living situation so I could take him but that was impossible. I was able to bring our cat but I cried for weeks/months over the dog. :(
I also have given up ever owning a house. I simply cannot do it on my own, even something tiny. I have made peace with this but sometimes, just sometimes, I look at something small but realize unless it's move in ready, I cannot buy it. I am not handy and I am not Martha Stewart. I don't like to spend hours on yardwork and like being able to come and go quickly, with no worry. I could spend some money on making a small home habitable but I wouldn't even know where to begin and nor do I have the time to supervise anything.
Along with that house, I gave up all the CRAP that was in it. I literally gave away a moving van of stuff.
I was never a shopper but I have really had to put the brakes on what I call the "little" things that sneak into the home- a candy bar, a coffee, a little toy, etc. I do try to buy myself and my son a treat once a month but those little amounts add up.
I had to give up certain "friends" but I guess they are not my friends if they are not here for me now. This also means I gave up certain volunteering opportunities and the church we belonged too because it was just to awkward.
Once DS graduates and moves on, I will also be giving up this town. I think I need to make a fresh start. That would be for another 10 years, but DS is the only thing tying me to this town. I don't want to swap schools on him. He is thriving and I don't want to mess that up.
What actually is a positive is I was able to give up ideas or thoughts on what I THOUGHT I believed in. Everything from marriage to religion to how DS is raised and everything in between. I now have freedom to truly think for myself and not be formed by someone else in the house who wants all the control. That is a positive.
Edited by accountclosed15 - 3/19/13 at 2:22pm