My daughter was very excited about her fitness tests at school this week. She has been setting goals for herself and was really excited to see if she could meet them. She got her scores today and she met 4 out of her 6 goals. She was very happy.
She then read the rest of the report which labeled her in the 96th percentile for weight and put her in the "obese" category. She wants to know what that means.
This is the same child who last week was in tears because she didn't want to wear her ballet uniform because she was worried kids would call her fat. I have already explained to her that people come in different shapes and sizes.
I have always been high up in the weight percentiles and am labeled as "obese" even though I am healthy and fairly active. My daughter has been high in the percentiles for weight and height since she was a baby.
I am really nervous that this is going to impact my already sensitive child's self-esteem. I don't want her to develop any food issues because of this labeling at school.
We have already started to cut out added sugars at home purely because I think it's a healthier lifestyle, not because I feel fat or because I think she needs to lose weight. I am working on cutting out processed foods as well although that's a harder battle since my parents watch her frequently for me when my work meetings run late and such.
I don't exactly know that I am looking for here, except that I am basically freaking out because I don't know how to explain this without making her feel fat. And I am feeling very guilty that I have let her get labeled like this. I am feeling like a horrible mother.