Seriously family SUCKS!
So we decided back when we decided on a name for our baby that we weren't going to tell her name to our fam til she was born. I (stupidly) trusted my sister tho and decided to share it with her... Our mom passed back in '11 and I just felt like it was a nice way to include her and it honestly made me feel closer to her/my mom in a weird way. Anyway, she KNEW and was told MANY MANY times that she was told in confidence and that we were telling NONE else and that NOONE else was to know that she knew! (So as to avoid any hurt feelings)
Well... Fast forward to yesterday! I get a call from one if my aunts (who I'm very close with) giving me a hard time (totally in a joking way, she is the sweetest person ever!) as to why I told "K" the baby's name and not her? My reaction was ofcourse SAY WHAT?!!!??? Well apparently... My sister went to my other aunts 60th bday bash last Friday and somehow the baby's name came up and my sister was all "I know the baby's name... DON'T YOU?... You DON'T?... WANNA GUESS? It's two syllables... Four letters..." OMG. My aunt who is telling me all this told me that this was all said not only in front if her, my other aunt BUT MY 80yr old grandmother! My aunt cut her off and told me she sneered in her face that she needed to SHUT UP! Did DO NOT! Say the baby's name!
Consequently. My poor grandmother, who is BEYOND excited for this baby (her very first great grandchild.) she is really hurt that my sister was told and she wasn't and she feels like I've lied to to her in telling her no one else knows! (We are very close btw... My Grammy practically raised me. An is much more of a mom to me than a grandmother)
I seriously CAN NOT believe my sister has done this! This was very important to us, to keep this secret! all I can think is WHO ELSE HAS SHE TOLD? And if my other two sisters, or my mother in law or step mom find out that she knew... There will be alot of hurt feelings. I feel so betrayed. And so disrespected. And it worries me abt how she will respect all of our other wishes for the baby after she's born! Will she respect my wishes for her pics to be kept off fb unless I post them? (For the record my FB is VERY private.... And my sister has a billion "friends" she doesn't even know) probably not.... I feel my momma bear instincts are raging and I'm just so mad.
Oh and I texted her last night and asked her why in the world she would say what she did... Her response? "Oh I had no idea it would hurt anyone's feelings. I apologize." WHAT? She is SO manipulative and has this sense of entitlement when it comes to MY CHILD. This baby has 4 aunties! FOUR! And according to her "she's the only one and baby's favorite"
At this point I don't even wanna call her when baby is born. Just let her find it with everyone non family on fb after all the families been told....
*sigh* thanks for reading.