I just realized my children do not know what to do when they are alone.
My children are almost always together and they play beautifully. I keep waiting for the sibling bickering, etc. but at 8.75yo it hasn’t happened…yet. They do not need to play with each other when other children are around and are happy playing separately with other children (at recess, in the neighborhood, etc.). But the past few weeks I noticed they do not know what to do when they are alone. e.g. Tonight, my son was gone with my husband for one hour and my daughter continuously whined that she had nothing to do, was bored, didn’t know what to do, etc. The same thing happened last weekend when my son was sick in bed. When my daughter stays after school for an hour once a week for drama club my son is complaining in a similar way.
Has anyone else gone through this?
Or do all children have this problem when by themselves and I never noticed because mine always have a playmate?
I realized that until recently, they were never apart. I’m guessing they will figure out what to do with themselves over time. Over the years my husband and I talked about separating them; each taking one to do something. But we never actually did it. My husband works a lot so they are usually both with me or on his rare time off we are all together as a family.
eta: I end up using this time for a little one on one time with the alone/bored child...which is nice. But sometimes I am unable to do something with them. (Like tonight I had a migraine and didn't feel like playing a game. So my daughter ended up cuddling with me in bed - after all the whining.) So...maybe it isn't really a problem...I just thought maybe they should learn how to entertain themselves when alone.
Edited by dbsam - 3/21/13 at 5:53am