Ladies I need some serious help. My cute little chub is not sleeping at night. He goes down around 8pm usually without a fuss but he is up constantly! He may sleep for an hour then he wakes crying. We brought him to the pediatrician where he was diagnosed with an ear infection and we thought ahhh that's the reason but he is still doing it. There was a period at around 8 weeks where he would only wake once in the middle of the night but that changed a few weeks ago. The crying stops the minute we pick him up. I try to rock/nurse him back to sleep but the minute I put him down he stirs and is back up crying. He may fall asleep again but only for an hour sometimes less and then the cycle repeats itself. I have a three year old and a two year old. DH and I both work and we are about to lose our minds.
We do not co-sleep I am just not comfortable with doing it. I love the idea but I think I would be so paranoid of something happening that I still would not get any sleep. Plus our toddlers sometimes get into our bed in the middle of the night and I am afraid they might would hurt him (they do not make for good bed fellows). We have both fallen asleep while he is nursing in bed but it makes me scared. He does sleep peacefully when that happens though.
I shamefully admit I let him cry himself to sleep last night but only after going in picking him up, rocking, singing, patting, nursing etc for most of the night. He cried for a bit and finally fell asleep. Granted after that he slept for two plus hours, which is a long stretch for him lately, but it was heart wrenching. I don't know what to do. It doesn't seem that anything is physically wrong with him because like I said if you pick him up he is happy as can be but what do you do in that situation? I am at the point of not being able to function well mentally and physically. Am I causing the situation by tending to him every time he cries? The lack of sleep is making me a bad parent to my other two LO's, a crappy wife, and a unproductive employee. I have never had to deal with sleep issues with my other LO's so I don't know what to do. I am open to any suggestions.