I'm pregnant with my second baby. My first is now 3.5yo and still breastfeeding.
My approach until I got pregnant was to give her milk whenever she asked, day or night. She was a baby and toddler who would stay latched on for very long periods of time, luxuriating. I was flexible and was happy to rest or read or whatever while she did this. Even now, she likes to nurse for long periods, especially to begin or end sleep. We never figured out a way for her to fall asleep with me unless she was nursing to sleep, so I'd stay with her while she napped. It worked okay, really, and we weren't planning on having any others, so I figured I had the time. She remained a frequent (every 2 hours, sometimes more, or less) nurser until around age 3, when I got pregnant and she easily nightweaned by me starting to sleep in another bed while she continued sleeping with my husband.
Now I'm late in pregnancy, and I am so sick of breastfeeding. The idea of starting over with another baby sounds terrible to me. (I hope post-birth hormones will fix that for me. Will they?) And meanwhile, as I'm writing, my husband is trying to get my daughter to sleep after nursing failed to do it for her but she wanted to keep bf-ing (aka chewing on my tired nipples) for eternity. She's screaming wildly wanting "more milk" and is clearly miserable. I feel terrible for making milk the center of comfort for her at bedtime, and not finding an alternative earlier. (I was always so tired at bedtime, due to all night nursing and my own sleep issues, that I was willing to breastfeed in lieu of more creative methods to teach her to fall asleep without breastfeeding.)
I remember reading Elizabeth Pantley's books and trying to use the "Pantley Pull Off" when my daughter was a baby, and then a toddler, and so on, but it never worked. She's had sleep challenges from the beginning. I definitely want to breastfeed the new baby until at least age 2 or 2.5, but I know I won't be able to share every nap with this baby--she'll have to learn to sleep without nursing through the whole nap.
Just wondering if others have found themselves in similar situations, and how they have handled extended breastfeeding with subsequent kids. Thanks for any thoughts!