When I became pregnant this time, I decided to go with a midwife practice, since I've heard so many wonderful things about midwifery and how they are a lot more relaxed and not so clinical about pregnancy and birth. I figured, great! I'm a good candidate despite my size since I've had a very straight forward easy pregnancy and birth and I've already been assessed by specialists who saw no red flags at all. Well it took weeks on a waiting list to even get picked up by a practice which I can understand. Then when I met the two midwives on my team, I actually felt like the drs were warmer and more friendly last time. I figured, maybe we just didn't click and didn't sweat it. My primary midwife said she has to put me on the "bariatric protocol" involving many US, two GTT and an OB. I figured, fine, whatever. She sent me for my anatomical at 20 weeks instead of 18 (I had no issue with that) but I had to convince her to please let's try the standard baby friendly hospital for the US where I'll be delivering at instead of the research hospital in the same city. My hospital is nearby, I can easily park a few blocks away and feel comfortable there. The research hospital is a nightmare for everything from parking to navigating to perpetual ongoing construction. She consented and I had my US. Everything looked fine but it took a while but baby was being stubborn and the tech wasn't able to get a facial profile pic. She got every other measurement successfully and there were no indications of any issues, baby was simply stubborn and wouldn't get into the position we needed. So I needed a followup US, which is fine. My MW INSISTED this time that it be done at the research hospital though since they have newer/more powerful equipment. I didn't fight it but wasn't happy. I was called in and the tech was confused.
"Are you delivering here?"
"Then why didn't they send you back to St J? I have all their results right here and they got good data, just need an additional image."
"I know, I don't get it either, it's what my MW wanted."
I know it's not a big deal but I feel let down by my MW. The whole reason I switched was to have more relaxed, easier prenatal care without all the additional appointments that proved unnecessary with my first pregnancy anyways. I have a two year old who is really only comfortable staying with my mom (or DH and I) and she works full time. I feel like if my first pregnancy was low risk and no blood test or US is picking up any issues, I don't spill sugar or protein in my urine and my BP is fine then bringing an OB in this time will have the same outcome: "why are you here?" I've already done the GTT at like 14 or 16 weeks and will have to do it again at 28 weeks. She mentioned monthly US... Why?! The anatomical US is done and everything looks good, including placental position. I know US are notoriously inaccurate to gauge growth in the third trimester. Argh. I seriously feel like they took one look at the scale and got their guard up and I'm no longer the patient they want. With my last pregnancy, I had one extra US after the anatomical around week 32 which I'd be happy to do again. I'm honestly starting to regret going with midwifery. I can't switch because everyone is all booked up and I don't want to spend weeks without care. I'm just very disapointed and honestly kind of hope they are both busy on the day I go into labour so I'll have a random on call MW who may not be as anal and defensive about overweight pregnancies.
Thanks for reading if you made it through all that. Can anyone relate?
ETA cross posted in August DDC