Now that we are here though, it's so much harder! All the obvious reasons point to stopping at three. Dh is open to more - he wants more like 4 or 5 - but he has such a hard time dealing with all three together already that I'm hesitant to add to that. He also works long hours so I'm on my own a lot. We fight a lot when I'm pregnant and throughout the first year. Finances are always a concern - we make enough but barely and more kids would mean more stress. We have three boys and even though I always wanted a girl, I am totally excited about doing a triple bunk bed in their room once ds3 moves out of our room. I was just starting to do some freelance work after ds2 and while I've been able to continue doing it, it's been hard through the pregnancy and while ds3 has been so little - I could start to focus more on that. On me for that matter - maybe lose some of this baby weight! And once ds3 starts sleeping through the night, I'll be able to sleep again!
But there is such a yearning for another baby. I have so many friends that are pregnant and I feel so sad when I look at them and their new squishies and know I won't have one again. I thought when I was done that I would feel more like I did after ds2. But I'm kind of obsessed with babies now. Is this normal? Is it hormones? Or is it really a sign that maybe we're not done?