Hello! A few days ago I was with my inlaws celebrating my birthday. My MIL is wonderful, a bit bossy but the good far, far outweighs the bad and she has been a wonderful baby sitter for my 8mo son. She is very well meaning, raised 3 kids of her own, has watched other babies in the recent past, and seems all around baby-savvy. So why did I walk into the kitchen and she had my baby on the kitchen counter sitting alone while she had her back to him cooking??? Her kitchen counters are standard, probably 3' high and not especially deep. My son is definitely longer than the depth of the counter. He isn't crawling yet but he is *always* going from a seated position onto hands and knees and pushes himself forward on his back feet till he is belly down. Needless to say, had he done that (we all know how fast babies can move), he would have gone face first onto a tile floor. Am I crazy for thinking that she was risking his life?? I'm medically trained and fully aware of the potential head and spine injuries that could be sustained from a fall like that. When I came in and saw it, her reply was "I was watching him" but she wasn't. When I walked in I had enough time to register that she wasn't holding my son (her back was to him), ask her where he was, turn around in a 360 looking for him, and then I saw him. That's long enough IMO. I feel like my trust in her has been shattered. How do I communicate with her that I'm afraid to let her watch my son alone? She didn't seem to realize that what she did was wrong, and how severe the situation actually was. Am I blowing this out of proportion? And if she didn't realize that she was risking him, what other kinds of things is she going to think is okay that are going to be risks to his life? For me, it's the equivalent of letting him play next to a fireplace or in the street, it's not if, it's when he gets hurt.
Any opinions? Anyone want to talk sense into me? Am I being irrational?