I'm really tired and I need some help sorting this out!
DS is 15 months old and is cutting molars :(. He wakes up in the middle of the night and just can't settle back to sleep literally no matter what we do (this lasts 1-3 hours straight/night). He usually ends up in our bed after a lot of anguish and me trying to soothe him, just sitting up, yawning, fussing, poking us, saying "ball" and "dad" and "cracker." No fun. DH is getting tired of it (no way!). Right now DS goes to sleep in his room in a crib at the front end of the night, wakes up and comes to our bed usually between midnight and 2. I used to be able, sometimes, to nurse him and put him back and he'd go another 3 hours. But now, this is not true! He just can't go back to sleep! And I get exhausted trying to settle him in his crib/hold him because I'm standing or bent over for much too long in the middle of the night.
I was thinking of getting rid of the crib and laying down a double mattress on the floor of his room. If he's restless and wakeful, at least I can lie down somewhere with him while he does his thing and DH's irritation wouldn't enter the fray. DH is on board with the idea. But I am wondering, do I need to do anything special to the room to make it safe without a crib? It's already baby proofed and we are downstairs with doors to the stairs shut. We don't close his bedroom door all the way because it's loud to open/close. But I don't want to deal with a baby gate at his doorway. Is this really necessary if the rest of the downstairs areas are familiar to him and baby proofed? Maybe the worst that could happen is that he would do whatever he could do to get to DH at night.
Any ideas or suggestions or even cautionary tales? Already, at ped's recommendation, going to give him meds before bedtime and do orajel topically. I just need to lie down somewhere. I would rather him poke me while I did that in his room than do everything else we've been doing.