My husband just shows up with the kids on the day of the party (motherinlaw blathers on about it...btw she never comes either)...until they moved the moved the party away from the house. I refuse to go...I think it's tacky to just show up at someone's house uninvited. I also have better things to do than to be snubbed and have it rubbed in my face all afternoon.
We live 30 minutes apart and she never wants to spend time with us (I think because we don't have as much money and she doesn't like me...oh and I have a daughter and she doesn't...lame).
We are having a birthday party this year. (Usually we do events with one or two friends in lieu of a party.) I have invited them in the past but they may or may not come...they refuse to RSVP...they may or may not give notice about coming or not coming...and since she refuses to reply to an email or return a call (no joke...not once in three years) I have no way of knowing the day of the party.
I am uncomfortable in her presence. I think she is very tacky and I don't know why she is so distant with us (I have asked directly...the answer was about how she needed new flip flops)
Do I HAVE to invite them?
It seems rude not to...
I am torn. My #1 pet peeve is hypocrisy and avoid it at all times...but I just want to have fun and be comfortable at my kids party...
When I ask my kids to list off people to invite (I have asked several times) my nephew is never on the list.
What should I do?
What is proper?
What is the least hypocritical thing to do?