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Nursing Mamas, Who's Still With Me?

post #1 of 13
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And how's it going? I'm pretty sure we're dry nursing, as I don't hear any swallowing. Oh and the pain has dramatically increased in the last few days, but fortunately is still only for about 30 seconds to a minute long. He's also cut way down. Mostly just morning and bedtime. Kinda like the fact that he's only rarely waking up at night. I can use all the uninterrupted sleep I can get. It will be interesting to see if he follows the same pattern his brother did. He had basically night weaned but when new brother came along, he suddenly was nursing as much as a newborn again. He went on to nurse until a few weeks before his fifth birthday. He was about three months shy of three years. Toby will be about two months shy of three years.
post #2 of 13
We're still nursing, pretty sure she's getting "something" as she nurses more when she doesn't eat much food. No pain yet but I hate it when she nurses at night for more than a few minutes. We were almost down to nursing to sleep and during night unless she was sad but she often asks several times a day now and will stay on for at least a few minutes. She'll be two a couple months after her brother or sister is born.
post #3 of 13

we're still nursing...and i thought my milk was gone...but he's kept going and i think still has wet diapers from it. my breasts were pretty small until about a month ago and they grew like last time--size-wise. he's still asking for milk many times a night, we went through a period of about 5+ times a night. but i just figured out it had to do with a too late/too long nap. so we've cut back and i only nurse 1x when he naps or not at all and then he won't sleep as long. so...better sleep at night! maybe 2-3 nursings. and the first one isn't until 1:30am--he's pretty consistent. 

 

my nipples are sore and the initial latch does seem the worst. but at night i can't handle too much either. but if he doesn't get it he screams bloody murder. papa won't do--it has to be mama and so i don't know what adjustments will happen after baby comes. but hopefully he just starts sleeping and waking up less soon. :)

 

it's been a journey--but i'm glad we're still going. :)

post #4 of 13
Still nursing here too and no swallowing or milky drool ... Never thought I'd miss it lol. She's turning two this weekend and I'm psyched that we made it to this big milestone! She nurses at naptime, bedtime and maybe once or twice overnight. I've had success partially nightweaning when it was simply too painful at night and often she will be fine with a little water and snuggles. I say partially because if she's adamant, I will let her unless I'm at the end of my rope. I'm hoping for a fast labour and short hospital stay so we miss as little nursing as possible. Are any of you mamas planning a hospital birth with an older nursling? I'm worried about her not sleeping at home with daddy.
post #5 of 13
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We did a hospital birth last time. My older kiddo was fine with Dad since he had mostly night weaned. He nursed when he came to visit at the hospital. We actually ended up being readmitted for severe jaundice and he did fine with that too.

I asked my little guy last night I he was still getting milk, he said he was. I can't imagine it's much, but apparently he is getting something.
post #6 of 13
Was he used to daddy at bedtime? I think mine would freak simply because I'm the night time parent. Anyways she can't get THAT scarred in 24-48 hours, right? wink1.gif
post #7 of 13

My two year old is obsessed with the boob. I night weaned him several months ago during my first trimester. We were down to just night time nursies and now he wants it when he wakes up and in the afternoon when i get home. Pretty sure nothing is coming out and it HURTS!! Im tired. Not into tandem nursing really. Hoping he weans before this baby comes.... doubtfull.

post #8 of 13
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Was he used to daddy at bedtime? I think mine would freak simply because I'm the night time parent. Anyways she can't get THAT scarred in 24-48 hours, right? wink1.gif

Yes, he was used to daddy. We had taken to me nursing him, then daddy taking hi to read books and be walked to sleep. Easiest transition for kiddo and not too many tears.
post #9 of 13

Nursing my 20 mo old still but he only nurses at bed time, upon waking, and if I'm not at work, at nap time. He doesn't wake during the night that often but typically if he does I nurse him back to sleep, as well. It's exhausting! The thought of nursing two little ones around the clock terrifies me. bigeyes.gif

post #10 of 13
I think I'm out greensad.gif. The last few days it's like DD forgot how to nurse. Sunday or so she was nursing down but then started smacking the nipple with her tongue and clicking. It didn't hurt per se but it brought on the nursing aversion in a big way and I stopped her. She has not latched on properly since!! Last night she took the breast but there was no latch, it just sat there in her mouth and she slowly drifted off. She's not napping now as a result and I'm just heartbroken over it. I know it's trivial compared to the hardships others in this DDC went through but I feel like I've failed her. I was really hoping to tandem nurse and give DD that extra security and comfort through the big adjustment of becoming a sibling. I wish you mamas all the best. For those still nursing and hoping to tandem, I hope your LO will keep it up. For those hoping the older child will wean, I wish you an easy transition. hug.gif I just feel so inadequate, guilty and like a big failure as a mother.
post #11 of 13
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I think I'm out greensad.gif. The last few days it's like DD forgot how to nurse. Sunday or so she was nursing down but then started smacking the nipple with her tongue and clicking. It didn't hurt per se but it brought on the nursing aversion in a big way and I stopped her. She has not latched on properly since!! Last night she took the breast but there was no latch, it just sat there in her mouth and she slowly drifted off. She's not napping now as a result and I'm just heartbroken over it. I know it's trivial compared to the hardships others in this DDC went through but I feel like I've failed her. I was really hoping to tandem nurse and give DD that extra security and comfort through the big adjustment of becoming a sibling. I wish you mamas all the best. For those still nursing and hoping to tandem, I hope your LO will keep it up. For those hoping the older child will wean, I wish you an easy transition. hug.gif I just feel so inadequate, guilty and like a big failure as a mother.

so sorry skycheattrraffic--big hugs. i know i would be upset and it would be a big transition for me if my LO stopped knowing how to nurse right now. i hope you can make peace with your guilty feelings and all those yucky feelings-- as you are being a great mother by being there with your LO and hoping to give her a smooth transition. i know you will find other ways with that as your priority. be kind to yourself. and big, big hugs. i knew there was that chance nursing wouldn't work as we went through a pregnancy...but it's a gamble we decided to take. i know we made the right choice for us-- but we've also had to grow up faster in ways that might not have happened, probably wouldn't have happened had we not gotten pregnant. made more adjustments and asked our 2yr LO to understand probably more than he wants to! :) but we're making it day by day. and thankfully he's understanding more day by day. hugs again!!!

post #12 of 13
hug.gif thank you, Ashley! I'm feeling a little better about it each day and on days when she doesn't nap, she sleeps 11-12 hours with 1 or 2 wakeups. I miss the nursing but love the sleep lol. She's just growing up so d@mn fast.
post #13 of 13

We are still at it.  I'm 28 weeks today and he's 2yrs 8m.  He's been asking a ton in the last day or two for some reason but I've kept to my plans and refused apart from nap and bedtime.  He's 80% nightweaned (asks and gets it about 1-2 days per week, other nights he STTN).  We are also transitioning from bedsharing to his big boy bunk bed with his 4yr old sissy on the top bunk and that's helping with night weaning also.  It's going great!  He goes to sleep good and is getting up between 3am-7am depending on the night and coming to bed with me!  At this rate I'm assuming we *will* tandem but I'd like to continue only allowing him nap and bedtime nursing since I suffer from low supply in the early days due to PCOS.

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