How Should I....?

[Past_VNE]

How should I tell/show my mother that she is going to have her first grandchild?

I was thinking of giving her a gift on her birthday, June 2nd, but don't know if I can wait that long.

On one hand, we want to wait, since she is scared to death that we plan a homebirth and will have a MW. She thinks it is so dangerous. I try to arm her with facts and will continue to do so, but no guarantees. She's a worrier to the point of giving herself migraines..always has been.

On the other hand, I just don't know if I can wait. I'm just dying to tell her. So far, I've told my brothers (half bros from Dad,) my dad and DH's mom.

When I tell my mother, though, my maternal grandparents, who raised me, will know, too. It's all or nothing.

So, any suggestions or personal stories are appreciated. Gift ideas, alternatives, anything...I'm way open to suggestions.

Thanks!!

[Larissa]

I knew someone who gave baby blue and pink flowers to the person they were telling. I always thought that was really sweet!

My sister gave my parents each a beautiful grandmother and grandfather magnet.

We didn't do anything special when we told my parents and dh's parents because it wasn't the first grandchild. We just told them.

[taradt]

my parents live far away so i called them and asked them to come out for christmas because we wanted to show off our special christmas present (my mom got it right away... poor dad was clueless and thought i was getting a car for christmas??????)
for our first we did pretty much the same thing called and told them a special someone would want to meet them.

good luck it is always fun to tell the parents

tara

[Past_VNE]

Good ideas, thank you!

We live local to our families, so the visiting for Christmas wouldn't work for us...cute idea though!!

The locality is one of the problems in waiting. I don't want to see my mom every week or so and not tell her. : I just don't know what to do.

[martinanne]

I'm watching this thread with interest. I don't know how to tell my Mom either. This will be her 7th grandchild. Recently she was talking to me about how it's getting difficult to keep all the birthdays straight (because the sixth grandchild had just been born). I think she will be very surprised I'm having another baby. I want to break it to her in just the right way. So far, I like the pink and blue flowers idea.