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post #21 of 57

Scruffy, I didn't see your birth story spoiler at first either! I can't wait to hear the whole story!

post #22 of 57
Oh Scruffy, sounds like a long bumpy ride. Your midwife did what she thought was best and you certainly don't look or sound cheated! I can't wait to read the whole story x

Chapsie, thanks for highlighting the secret text, I wouldn't have spotted that either. It's lovely to enjoy the last moments of family time as is and I think important to be happy where you're at before your body decides to move
forward.

Good article, sunshine!
post #23 of 57
This blog is over-the-job hilarious!! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/2013/03/25/pregnancy-not-all-about-the-baby_n_2829888.html

Its all about an L&D nurse's crazy, funny or stupid experiences! She doesn't write in it anymore but its very entertaining and great for those of us who are impatiently waiting our LO's arrival.
post #24 of 57

Scruffy, that is quite the drama! But I think you're amazing for taking it in stride, and being happy with how things turned out. Good for you. And I'm so glad everything *did* turn out to be okay, and you're both healthy!

 

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I just read this and i really liked it, i think you guys will like it too:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/2013/03/25/pregnancy-not-all-about-the-baby_n_2829888.html

 

Kate Fridkis, who wrote this article, has a blog at http://www.eatthedamncake.com/ which is about body image and that kind of thing (and now she's pregnant, so we get the pregnant posts too). She writes a lot of interesting and thought-provoking posts, if any of you are interested in that topic!

 

I'm continuing to have contractions each day, and they're definitely more frequent, but haven't gotten regular again. But they *do* seem to be getting slowly more intense. And I seem to be getting even more tired even more easily these days! I'm still not past my due date, though it is SO weird to now be able to say "Friday" when people ask me when I'm due. Time both flies by and slows to a crawl at the end here!

post #25 of 57
It was late when i posted that link--apparently its the same link i posted earlier lol. Heres what i meant to link to:
http://itsababynotbrainsurgery.blogspot.com/?m=1

This nurse had me in stitches (pun intended lol) last night, i couldnt get enough of her blog!! The post where a woman came in a whopping 81 times because she thought she might be in labor had me cracking up--thats 1 or 2 times a day for 2 months! And the woman who came in with heavy vaginal bleeding who turned out to have a bite mark on her labia (!!), that was the source of her bleeding but she wouldnt admit that she knew anything about it. Totally nutty and funny, i hope you guys enjoy it too smile.gif

Thanks for the link, chocolatechip, i'll definitely go check out her blog!

Still no baby for me but i'm in good spirits today, i slept really well, had beautiful dreams, the weather is amazing and i'm just feeling good in general. I'm glad you're doing great, too, chapsie smile.gif. Maybe we will both carry all this good energy to our births, wouldnt that be wonderful?

Yay for contractions being more intense and being due on Friday, chocolatechip :-D. Mine are getting more and more intense, too, it'll happen any time now, its really trippy to think about that.
post #26 of 57
chocolatechip, I know what you mean! It was so weird when people said, "when are you due?" and I said "today!"
post #27 of 57
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chocolatechip, I know what you mean! It was so weird when people said, "when are you due?" and I said "today!"

I think that was my favorite part of being pregnant the last week, getting to answer "last weekend" to that question!

post #28 of 57
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Originally Posted by scruffy too View Post

I think that was my favorite part of being pregnant the last week, getting to answer "last weekend" to that question!

Yeah, people's eyes bug out. lol!
post #29 of 57

Scruffy I have to admit I winced when I read that you'd transferred to hospital.  That drive is a slog at the best of times!  At least though there's only one or two traffic lights - that was the worst part of being in really active labour driving to the hospital here - all the stop-and-go.  But it's true that I missed out on the airborne part that you enjoyed.

 

And I think your midwife did exactly the right thing.  Especially in jurisdictions where midwifery isn't licensed or recognized, it's REALLY important that midwives err on the side of caution.  Because frankly a few women not getting exactly the birth they want doesn't even register on the public radar when it comes to getting midwifery licensing up and running - but a single tragedy makes a huge impact.  Her NOT transferring you could well have set the cause of midwifery back 20 years or made it NEVER a real option for women in the territory. And you're so right about the hospital - my sister has given birth there twice and been really happy both times.  And her first baby was a stubborn nasty case of the inductions and I'm sure if she'd been down here, she would have been pressured into a c-section, but to the best of my knowledge Whse Gen has never been c-section-happy.  Anyway, congratulations on your baby, love the name, and enjoy your babymoon!

post #30 of 57

Okay, so last night and today, I suddenly feel like I'm done. I was feeling great a few days ago! And now I feel like it's hard to move, I'm tired, a little cranky, the baby's not here but it's hard to get things done anyway... Did this shift happen quickly for you all, or did you feel like it was more gradual?

 

I just want the house to get clean and some projects to get finished but I don't want to DO any of it all. Sigh.

 

I did finally finish the thank you notes for my baby shower. And had an accomplished sewing friend help me figure out how to set up and use my sewing machine, and then help me start in on making reusable wipes. Both of those felt productive. But really, all I want to do is sit/lie around and eat, read, play on the computer, sleep...

 

Also, I'm back to not wanting any vegetables. How weird is that? It's like first trimester food-ick all over again!

 

Okay, self-pity party over. Hope you're all having a happier day. smile.gif

post #31 of 57
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Okay, so last night and today, I suddenly feel like I'm done. I was feeling great a few days ago! And now I feel like it's hard to move, I'm tired, a little cranky, the baby's not here but it's hard to get things done anyway... Did this shift happen quickly for you all, or did you feel like it was more gradual?

 

I just want the house to get clean and some projects to get finished but I don't want to DO any of it all. Sigh.

 

I did finally finish the thank you notes for my baby shower. And had an accomplished sewing friend help me figure out how to set up and use my sewing machine, and then help me start in on making reusable wipes. Both of those felt productive. But really, all I want to do is sit/lie around and eat, read, play on the computer, sleep...

 

Also, I'm back to not wanting any vegetables. How weird is that? It's like first trimester food-ick all over again!

 

Okay, self-pity party over. Hope you're all having a happier day. smile.gif

100% with you!!  I on;y want carbs and they don't make me feel good (strong) and they TMI- constipate me. LOL

 

And, zero motivation to do ANYTHING. Even knit now... I forced myself to finish sewing a tiny dress only because it's a 0-3m pattern and I know she will be close to 8.5 pounds... if not bigger...

 

My kids are restless and bored because I don't want to leave the house. Baby girl needs to come so we can figure out our new normal!!!

 

Hang in there. It really will be soon now.

post #32 of 57

Chocolate chip- I am so where you are right now!  The shift was very sudden for me, this weekend.  The waiting game can be so hard.  It is best to stay active, but hard to find the motivation!  I am getting super restless and antsy!

 

My friend told me today that she teaches her two year old that patience is "waiting with a smile!" Haha.  Trying to make that my mantra right now.  :)

post #33 of 57

I like that. "Waiting with a smile".

post #34 of 57
That sudden shift to 'done' was definitely an
Indicator things were close for me!

Hang tough, ladies, your babies are coming v soon and we're all thinking of you in the meantime. Channel that full moon smile.gif
post #35 of 57
Waiting with a smile--definitely a lesson for me wink1.gif. You are not alone, chocolatechip, i've been in the same space for a few weeks now. My mood is a little lighter today, i think because i'm sensing labor is super close. For me, it was more of a gradual decline in energy and motivation, but i can see how it would happen suddenly, too.
post #36 of 57

So glad to have the sympathy! Funnily enough, today I woke up and feel surprisingly good. I have also been having contractions all day, once again not super strong, and at first not regular, though they seem to be settling down into more of a pattern. So now of course I wonder if I feel better because I might go into labor soon! Or maybe I just vented enough yesterday and got a good night's sleep, and my body is doing more practice contractions. Ah, what a mind game!

 

eternalw - yes, carbs! Mmmm, carbs... I just had eggs and potatoes for lunch. Then a spoonful of cookie dough (which is in the freezer so it can be cookies when the baby comes!). And now I have a piece of cake defrosting on the counter. Sigh. This baby better come soon, just because my diet is deteriorating so quickly!

 

Chapsie, "waiting with a smile" is good. I've been trying to touch into my limited Buddhist/meditation experience, and remember that I can be mindful and in the present, and acknowledge what I'm feeling and then let it go. Sometimes it's easier than others, of course!

 

SlimP, glad to know the shift was a sign for you. I'm crossing my fingers I'll be the same!

 

sunshinelove, I hope labor really is super close for you!!

post #37 of 57

Just had a good cry... 

 

My wonderful midwife came by for a home visit today and we had "the talk."   Standard of care in this area is for VBAC mamas to have repeat cesareans at 41 weeks.  I'm 41+2.  (My first baby was a c/s and my second was a natural VBAC at 41+1).  So... she is going to call and schedule a c/s for me for next Wednesday, which is 42 weeks, and she will say that I am aware of the risks and refused a cesarean at 41 weeks.  They will not induce a mom with a previous cesarean.  She was so sweet and told me that she trusts that my body and my baby are ok and that it stinks that we even have to be thinking this way.  But... what can you do?? Her hands are tied.  I need to go for another BPP tomorrow. 

 

It is so crazy for me to even think of this as a possibility.  To go from home waterbirth to scheduled cesarean is such a dramatic change in plans, I can't even wrap my brain around it.  I'm ok... I told myself at the beginning of this pregnancy that if I needed a c/s, I'd be ok with it.  It's not the end of the world, I've survived it once, I can do it again.  Obviously, it's not ideal, and it's ok for me to be disappointed.  I trust that babies come when they are ready.  I just don't want anything to happen to this little girl... with two back to back losses prior to her conception, I am just so eager to have a healthy baby in my arms! 

 

I have 5 more days.. it is very likely that this baby will decide to come on her own.  The midwife swept my membranes for me (at my request) and I just pumped 1.5 oz (!!!!!) of colostrum (I can hardly believe I pumped that much!  WHOA!) for nipple stim.  I am going to call an accupuncturist and my chiropractor tomorrow.  I am starting to get desperate.  

 

I am going to spend some time writing out a cesarean birth plan tonight.  I can't even believe that I have to do this.  I know God is in control, and if this is his plan for this birth, then I have to be ok with that.  He knows the desires of my heart... I place this in his hands!  

 

This is such a weird place to be in... again.   At least I was able to give birth at least once out of three kids.  ::sigh::   I asked my midwife if this was common for her to see third babies be so late.  She said "it's common for last babies to be late!"   This is our last baby (according to DH).  My body doesn't want to give her up yet!  

 

Also, I found out that my coworkers have been giving my midwife crap.  I was so afraid this would happen.  We both work at a hospital in OB, and I've been out on maternity leave since 39.5 weeks.  Some of the L&D nurses have really been pestering my midwife about how I'm overdue and a VBAC and blah blah blah.  UGH.  They don't know my history... it's none of their business.  I'm so sorry that she has been having to deal with such negativity/hostility.  What will they say when they find out I've been planning a homebirth this whole time!  Ha! 

 

Anyway... I'm REALLY hoping that tonight is the night.  Please pray for me.  For faith, trust, positivity, overflowing joy... and a beautiful, peaceful homebirth with a healthy mom and baby!!!  

post #38 of 57
Huge hug, chapsie!! hug.gif. I am praying for you, i really hope you get the peaceful birth your soul seeks. I'm sorry you're feeling so much pressure. You do have 5 full days, i have a good feeling you'll give birth by then. Maybe look at anything that might be holding your body back, like the grief from your losses or the fear of another c-section or your medical training affecting your feelings. I am also looking at myself, trying to see if theres anything holding me back. I have fears when it comes to birth, the intensity overwhelms me, but the last few weeks i've been hunkering down, really going inside myself to release the tension i hold around that. My family and i have been through a lot the last few years, i know i have fears about how the dynamic will work with another child. I sense it will be positive, but of course not without its challenges. I know i can do this, it will be okay, breathing in and out and just focusing on that helps too. Also, thats not cool of your coworkers to be badgering your midwife! Its really not their business.

As a side note, i keep having either back contractions or just a never-ending backache. This is very different from when i was pregnant with my daughter, i wonder if the back contractions will just get more and more intense? Or will i have a backache that just gets worse and worse and out pops a baby? I dont know, i think i'm going to go read more birth stories...
post #39 of 57
Oh chapsie. I am praying for you too.

(and I can not believe you pumped that much colostrum!)

big big hugs
post #40 of 57
And sunshinelove... Prayers for you and the backache.. how is baby's position? Maybe you need some hands and k nees?
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