I just found ScaryMommy.com and had a good laugh reading through these about horrible things people say to pregnant women: http://www.scarymommy.com/category/coping-with-the-general-public/ and this one regarding baby items you do NOT need to bother buying: http://www.scarymommy.com/10-things-you-really-dont-need-for-baby/ (since I've BTDT with several of the items and can relate)
Another one that is wise food for thought for those of you expecting your first and are not too entrenched in your mommying ways: http://www.scarymommy.com/when-mother-knows-best-its-the-worst/ --just describes that if you don't step back and let the father get in there and do things his way without you hovering over him and micromanaging, you might end up stuck with 99.9% of all the parenting chores forever because you basically set it up that way since birth. It's really true. I think I'll try this since my fiance is a newbie parent and still trainable. :)
Oh and this one just made me cackle with abandon describing women without children, which may be only funny if you are a mom already but kind of good to read if you are expecting your first so you can identify a few elements that are about to VANISH from your life: http://www.scarymommy.com/youre-probably-not-a-mother-if/
Ok, so a question for this week to stimulate some discussion...... um, how about,
"Do you have a private hope/fear about this baby that you haven't told anyone about?"
Obviously, only share if you feel like it, and it can be funny or sweet or serious.
Here's mine: I'm scared that this child could possibly suffer from the night terrors that my almost 10 year old still sometimes has. They started at 18 months with him and at 2-4 years of age they were FREQUENT, like almost every night. And violent, ugly, lasting hours, and nothing I could do helped. Very stressful. I've never been able to figure out what that was about, but the nighttime drama was so hard and all the while I told myself that surely he'll grow out of them. He still sometimes has them but they are now rare. he never remembers them. They got less and less frequent as he became school aged, yes. But they are so frustrating and unfair that no matter how dedicated a mother I am and how much love or patience I have to give, it only seems to make it worse. I worry that now that I'm getting out of that with my first child, maybe the third will have them too, and I'll be back to the beginning of a ten year career with night terrors. Shudder. I don't want to spend decades with this problem (yes I've talked to a child psychologist, nothing has ever fixed the problem although like I said it's pretty rare these days and doesn't feel like a huge issue)
Here's a sweet one. I hope that if it's a little girl, she looks very much like my fiance. He's such a pretty man, with great dark eyes/hair yet pale skin, and it would be so neat to have a child who looks like him, very different from my current kiddos. It obviously doesn't matter what the kid looks like, really, but it's just a fun fantasy to picture a striking dark haired girl who takes after her daddy. I haven't mentioned that to anyone. It's just my little fantasy.
Whether it's your first or your fifth, if you have any little secret hopes or apprehensions about what this person will be like, maybe it would feel good to share them here.