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post #21 of 41

My first 2 are 2 years 7 days apart...my daughters birth was a dream birth for me and I immediately felt like I could do it again and again if all births were like hers :) Dh was not ready for more...so fast forward almost 7 years later and we have our #3 baby, who is as sweet as can be. Labor was hard which is not unusual but my dd's birth was so easy and so fast that I was completely blindsided by having my water break at 4am with #3 and him not being born for 44 more hours where with dd water broke and 4 hours later she was in my arms. I LOVE the newborn phase I'm over the moon in love...but I'm not sure about birthing again. I know DH is ready to be done and I might finally agree.... which is an odd place to be as I just love birth

post #22 of 41

I literally was thinking "ah, this wasn't so bad, I could do this again" as the OB lifted E. out.. And now I am silently plotting. DH and I were having some quality alone time last night with both little ones sleeping and for a second I thought about asking.. but it's too soon. I think if there's another it'll be a few years. but I did have a dream (even before having E) that there'd be two boys and a girl.. we're on track! lol.

post #23 of 41
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Originally Posted by beautifulnm View Post

I literally was thinking "ah, this wasn't so bad, I could do this again" as the OB lifted E. out.. And now I am silently plotting. DH and I were having some quality alone time last night with both little ones sleeping and for a second I thought about asking.. but it's too soon. I think if there's another it'll be a few years. but I did have a dream (even before having E) that there'd be two boys and a girl.. we're on track! lol.

Lol!
The minute Atlas was finally out, after getting stuck for a few seconds, I asked them to just reach in and tie my tubes!! So when I first said maybe we should have another dh was like are you SURE you want to do that again.
post #24 of 41

I love newborns too and I'm so going to miss this stage. But a 2 year old and a 2 week old is all I can currently handle.  Plus, there's no room in the car! 

 

With that said, we are using LAM and then NFP as birth control.... My opinion is always that God will send the next one whenever it's the right time.  #1 was planned, #2 was a surprise... who knows about a possible #3. 

post #25 of 41
No way! But I am a first-time mom. Labor was not easy, but also doable in hindsight (the biggest issue was not knowing what to expect, and now I do). Breastfeeding is probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life (and parenting in general right behind that), but all in all, I'm amazed how well we are handling things, and doubly amazed at how much I love her and even am enjoying the newborn stage (which I thought would bore me to tears). Yet, somehow, the idea that she might be an only child seems more reasonable to me now than before she was born. I'd be surprised if that didn't change in a couple of years, but I am NOT thinking about having another anytime soon, LOL.
post #26 of 41
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Lol!
The minute Atlas was finally out, after getting stuck for a few seconds, I asked them to just reach in and tie my tubes!! So when I first said maybe we should have another dh was like are you SURE you want to do that again.

Ha! They asked me a couple of times at my regular appointments whether I wanted to have my tubes tied and I think the first time I was fed up between the gestational diabetes and anemia but each appointment I felt less and less like that was the right answer.. and the plan has dwindled all the way down to barrier methods. The GD and anemia were less of an issue than I thought they would be or they were made out to be so I don't feel like they'd be insurmountable in the future. 

post #27 of 41
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Originally Posted by wildmansmom View Post

I love newborns too and I'm so going to miss this stage. But a 2 year old and a 2 week old is all I can currently handle.  Plus, there's no room in the car! 

 

With that said, we are using LAM and then NFP as birth control.... My opinion is always that God will send the next one whenever it's the right time.  #1 was planned, #2 was a surprise... who knows about a possible #3. 

I jokingly mentioned a Sienna the other day and instead of husband's expected "oh god no" he mentioned they have a lot of amenities. His younger self would have had a cow. 

post #28 of 41

I'm in the no way camp at the moment.. But only because birth is so close for me. I'm not holding my prize yet... I'm sure it will change because I have a serious love for babies esp newborns.. My kids on the other hand are already picking out names for the next FIVE. Dude. I'm getting old for this!

post #29 of 41
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I'm in the no way camp at the moment.. But only because birth is so close for me. I'm not holding my prize yet... I'm sure it will change because I have a serious love for babies esp newborns.. My kids on the other hand are already picking out names for the next FIVE. Dude. I'm getting old for this!

 

FIVE!? Your kids totally have it in for you! lol.gif

 

You're right. It DOES help to be on the "other side" of pregnancy/birth. As soon as I had the new baby in my arms I was longing to do it all over again.

post #30 of 41

well, two years ago, with DS2, I swore right after pushing him out that I would never do that again...ever! And here I am with a newborn in my arms. This time, during labor, I made my husband swear he'd go make an appt. to get a vasectomy because I never wanted to have to be in labor again. I mean, really, in the moment I think labor is the worst possible thing ever! But I am blessed with wicked hard and fast labors, so I only have to endure for a few hours. Post partum sucks too though as does the whole last 5 weeks of pregnancy...to me. So I am like 90% sure this is it for me. 3 boys. Even though I did really want to mother a girl, I think I should be grateful, satisfied, and not put myself through another pregnancy/birth. However...there is the reality that birth control doesn't work well for me. The hormonal ones really mess with my body and mind in bad ways and I can't have an IUD because it caused an ectopic pregnancy and I had to remove one tube due to rupture, and the chance of repeat ectopic is high. 

post #31 of 41

LOL I have a 2003 11-passenger Ford E350 van!  It is the most awesome vehicle ever!  That said, I've been trying to figure out what to do vehicle-wise.  Between my partner and I, we have (yes) EIGHT vehicles!  We each have 4!  He has two extra vehicles at the moment that he's planning to sell, which will leave him with his commuting vehicle (AWD sedan) and the ancient plow truck (which currently lacks reverse--not a good attribute for any vehicle, but especially a plow truck!).  I have two daughters who are driving, so it isn't THAT much of a stretch that I have 4 vehicles, but still.  I have the van, which is awesome for hauling kids, the dogs, farm-related stuff, etc, but even with studded snow tires isn't very usable in our New England winters, so it has been parked for the last three months.  I have a '99Subaru Outback that is older DDs vehicle, but that I own.  She's taken over the expenses for it, and when it dies she plans to buy her own car.  Then I have a 1992 Dodge Dakota 4WD extended cab pickup that I bought two years ago so that I could get around in the winter.  It has some...interesting...rust and it isn't pretty, but it is a great vehicle when you NEED to get out in a blizzard, and it is GREAT for collecting firewood.  It also is totally unsafe for a car seat--the back seat is too small for a rear-facing seat and the front seat backs don't lock, so I won't be using that with the baby at all. DD2 drives it to school sometimes, and I bring it to work when the weather is awful.  Then last summer my dad gave us his '99 Honda Accord!  A totally unexpected gift, but wonderful, because both the van and the truck get around 12mpg which is not lovely.  Unfortunately the car has BALD tires and I haven't had the money to buy new ones yet, so it has been useless when the weather was bad this winter.  

 

So.  I have four vehicles and three drivers.  People keep telling me I should just sell the van, since it is rare that we all go somewhere in one vehicle anyways at this point, and if we do, we can just take two vehicles.  But (sob) my van is just SO neat!  Even if I take out the rear bench seat (seats 4), I can fit all 7 of us, plus a TON of cargo!  The entire back of it is covered with bumper stickers!  It is well-known in town and I just can't imagine not having my van!  The good thing is, all four vehicles are paid for, so it isn't really a stretch just to wait and see.  I've thought about finding a used GMC Safari or Chevy Astro, which come in AWD, which would allow me to have an AWD vehicle that would seat all of us.  I had an Astro before this van, and it was really good in the snow.  I wish the Honda was AWD--I'd get another Outback in a heartbeat, but I don't really see the point in buying yet another small vehicle that only seats 5!  And I refuse to have a car payment, so anything I buy will have to be cheap!  

 

Oh well, spring is here, so I don't really HAVE to make a decision at this point!  :)  But yes, I love my van and would be sad to sell it.  

 

~farmer

post #32 of 41
I think we found one! It's an 8 passenger ford, with all captains seats. Samson (our 240 lb great Dane) will fit in it too! And it would be so nice to travel in, which we hope to do more.
We have an expedition now, which also seats 8, but it's crowded and hard to get in and out of. And the dog can't fit now with all the kids.
Soooo, wish us luck, I hope we get the van!
post #33 of 41
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Originally Posted by MPsSweetie View Post

I think we found one! It's an 8 passenger ford, with all captains seats. Samson (our 240 lb great Dane) will fit in it too! And it would be so nice to travel in, which we hope to do more.
We have an expedition now, which also seats 8, but it's crowded and hard to get in and out of. And the dog can't fit now with all the kids.
Soooo, wish us luck, I hope we get the van!


awesome!! Hope it works out!!!

post #34 of 41
smile.gif thank you
post #35 of 41

As a first time mom, I don't think I fully realized the enormity of takin care of a little person until my son was born. I thought, he's huge! And then, what have I gotten myself into?! I felt like I could do labor again if I had to, but not for a while! He's almost 6 weeks now, and I'm coming out of this newborn fog, hah. Perhaps I could do this newborn part again.

 

I feel like the last 6 weeks were way harder than a day of labor. I feel similiar to Buko, breastfeeding and parenting have been the hardest things I have ever done. Now that breastfeeding is better and we are figuring out how to help him sleep, I'm starting to feel better about my capacity to handle another. I really want more kids. But. This is really hard!

post #36 of 41
Felix is only 2 weeks old, but I already keep thinking of him as my middle child. Is that weird?
post #37 of 41

I swore "never again" this whole pregnancy and through the first week or two of recuperating from my cesarean and now I'm thinking it might still be worth it to do this thing a third time (second with the whole diabetes stress...) It helps that my husband seems to really want a third. We'll see how I feel in another year or two, when this little one starts talking back. ;)

post #38 of 41

Zia is my second daughter- 8th child. My pregnancies are easy until about 38-39 weeks and that last month stinks. It is really hard on my husband and kids- esp with two year spacing... I had thought that this baby might be the last... I am getting older. Today though? Every time I look at her (11 days old today) I cry thinking she might be my last newborn. So yeah. I am obviously not ready to call it. My oldest son will be 20 and I hope there are grandchildren sometime within the next ten years, but it won't be the same. :(

 

Sad day for me, I guess. I cried when the next family in line came to pick up the birth tub.

post #39 of 41

My "plan" (using that term loosely b/c I have realized I am not in charge of how many children I have) is to be open to having children (and hopefully receiving them) until my oldest is almost out of the house... Then, hopefully, I will b able to have grandkids by the time the youngest is leaving the house!  :D  I LOVE babies!  

post #40 of 41
My midwife is convinced that I will have one more baby. smile.gif


My husband is feeling totally done at this point, but I got him to agree to the following plan: I promise to avoid pregnancy for the next two years and we will not do anything "permanent" until then. At two years, we will re-evaluate. smile.gif.
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