My D14 has an auditory processing disorder. Sometimes the fact that she can't process what she hears has caused problems for her in social situations and hasn’t always had friends. But as she's gotten older she’s learned to cope with her disability and in the past few years she's made several good friends.
Every morning she waits at the bus stop with other kids that go to her school. D14 is a freshman, at the bus stop there are several kids that are older than her all waiting for the same bus.
D14 told me that this particular morning at the bus stop someone said something about a morgue and she asked what’s a morgue?
One of the juniors told her “it’s a place where they keep dead people” but she said in a very condescending tone that basically said “you are so stupid”.
D14 replied “I didn’t know that I’m only 14” but the girl just ignored her.
D14 said this same girl has done this to her several times now and I can tell it really bothers her.
I told her she should tell this girl that how she talks to her makes her feel real bad but she doesn’t want to confront this girl. She says she doesn’t want to get into a fight. I told her if she stands up for herself it shouldn’t lead to a physical fight, but if it does she should defend herself.
I hate the thought of my daughter being bullied, you know how mean teen girls can be. This girl is not really friends with my daughter, but she’s friends with one of D14’s friends that is also a junior. So she also doesn’t want to cause problems between the two girls.
Any suggestions on how to help her deal with girls like this?