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April 2013 DDC Postpartum Chat Thread

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A place for all of the mamas to chat about their new little ones and all the fun things that come after birth. ;)

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I have found myself doing something I never thought I would do.....cosleeping. my daughter will sleep in her crib for naps, but not for bed. For that she wants mommy. So I lay her next to me when I sleep and she only wakes up to feed and get a diaper change. I feel good about it as I am hyper aware of her.

I noticed I am WAY more emotional this time around. I feel like the emotions due to hormone are even worse than the pregnancy ones. It's not a fun thing to have t deal with for sure!
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I know it's not for everyone, but I can't imagine NOT cosleeping!! I can't stand for my babies to be out of my sight or arms reach! After 9 months of symbiosis, being two separate beings is a hard adjustment for me, so I can only imagine baby feels the same way. This is especially true at night. Since he was born on Tuesday morning the only time he hasn't been in someone's arm (mostly mine or dh) is the few minutes he was in his car seat when we went to work on Friday.

 

I'm feeling really good overall. The birth was really positive and I've basically spent all week in my bedroom with baby. The only time we've left the house was for me to go to the shop to do payroll on Friday and then after that we went to the IL's for dinner. I'm feeling really blessed to have been able to take this time for us. I'll have to start going back to work for a couple hours at a time starting this week so it was extra special to stay home.

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Things are going fairly well. dh went back to work 3 days postpartum, so it was back to the routine of me and my 2 boys, plus newborn... laundry, cleaning, etc. I know I should take it easy, but for me I feel better just getting back to normal.. I was blessed that my body has recovered for the most part, and we're sleeping pretty good overnight.

The only issue I've had is feeding. I extended-bf'ed my boys, so I know I can do it and handle any challenges, but this time around I just didn't want to fight it.  my nips started bleeding a few days ago and once the baby vomited my blood I decided I really needed a break for a day or two.  Despite the huge amounts of guilt I will be processing in the coming days, weeks, months, it was honestly such a relief to see her take a bottle so well.  She hadn't many wet diapers, so for her suddenly to get fluids I think has helped her; she's been sleeping better and not constantly fussing for food.  Plus I just have never enjoyed nursing.. it just brings feelings of resentment for me, and sad to say it's dangerous for me to sit with the baby for 20 minutes because my boys are constantly hurting themselves/eachother/the house, so with a quick bottle feed, no one is being neglected as much, and her feedings don't have to be interrupted.  I was able to nurse a bit overnight, and even do bottle and breast during the same feeding, so I have high hopes that she's a very flexible baby and we'll find a nice balance of nursing/pumping/formula. She's such a happy peaceful baby.. something I've never seen before!!!

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JenJen .. I never thought we would co sleep either and esp with triplets... But they love being with us and we somehow make it work.. They sleep much better with us... Now not sure how long this can last with 3 babies lol

I'm doing ok ... My moms here driving me crazy but is a good help with the boys.. She will b here 6-8 weeks...Dp is working alot so it's really good to have the xtra hands ...

My milk has never come in really .. I pump and get about 3-3.5 ounces a day .. I do try to put the boys to breast but the milk is slow and the get frustrated... I will keep trying ... I swear I've taken every herb/med there is.... C'mon noobs kick in! We r using formula and donor breast milk ... But I'd love to make more if my own milk smile.gif

The boys are getting big.. I don't want to see them grow to fast:( almost 7 weeks old already !!!
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Question for those who are EBF. So Mira is a great nurser and *knock on wood* we haven't had any real issues with nursing these last 10 days! It's been wonderful smile.gif SOO here's my question. Lst night she had some pretty significant gas pains. Not horrible (as I've seen formula babies have horrid gas that makes them scream for hours it wasn't like that but she was def uncomfortable and it took us a while to get her to sleep, where as normally she just dozes off no problem) I've been trying to figure out if it was something I ate but I don't know how far back to go... How long does it take after you eat something for it to be in your BM? Does it take a day or so or is it right away? Anyone know? I def don't want to keep eating somthing that hurts her tummy so I sure hope I can figure this out...
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Question for those who are EBF. So Mira is a great nurser and *knock on wood* we haven't had any real issues with nursing these last 10 days! It's been wonderful smile.gif SOO here's my question. Lst night she had some pretty significant gas pains. Not horrible (as I've seen formula babies have horrid gas that makes them scream for hours it wasn't like that but she was def uncomfortable and it took us a while to get her to sleep, where as normally she just dozes off no problem) I've been trying to figure out if it was something I ate but I don't know how far back to go... How long does it take after you eat something for it to be in your BM? Does it take a day or so or is it right away? Anyone know? I def don't want to keep eating somthing that hurts her tummy so I sure hope I can figure this out...

I was under the impression that it is pretty soon after. Like within a couple hours. Our dd has had some serious rumbling going on but never seems to get too uncomfy. I think it is a lot to do with development still.
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I was under the impression that it is pretty soon after. Like within a couple hours. Our dd has had some serious rumbling going on but never seems to get too uncomfy. I think it is a lot to do with development still.

Hmm ok... Well for dinner I had Cornish hen, quinoa and shrimp salad with oranges, avocado & parsley. & cornbread quiche muffins (with corn, cabbage & peas)... None of that seems particularly gassy... Maybe the corn? It wasn't that much. Hmmm I did have a small bite of a brownie with walnuts...

I'm also looking up foremilk vs. hind milk. If they get more of one or the other does that not cause more gas? I need to pull out my nursing book lol
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Hmm ok... Well for dinner I had Cornish hen, quinoa and shrimp salad with oranges, avocado & parsley. & cornbread quiche muffins (with corn, cabbage & peas)... None of that seems particularly gassy... Maybe the corn? It wasn't that much. Hmmm I did have a small bite of a brownie with walnuts...

I'm also looking up foremilk vs. hind milk. If they get more of one or the other does that not cause more gas? I need to pull out my nursing book lol

Oh,, actually I've heard cabbage can be a possible colic trigger when breastfeeding. Ironic though, since cabbage can be beneficial ON your breasts to relieve engorgement. shrug.gif  I wouldn't worry too much though; every baby has their ups and downs, not necessarily related to each bite you take.  I wouldn't look into it much unless it keeps on happening, then keep a record to look for dietary patterns. It may be something completely different, like maybe there's an extra burp she's trying to get out, or my babe was crying the other day because part of her umbilical stump was poking into her skin and scratching her.

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Oh,, actually I've heard cabbage can be a possible colic trigger when breastfeeding. Ironic though, since cabbage can be beneficial ON your breasts to relieve engorgement. shrug.gif
  I wouldn't worry too much though; every baby has their ups and downs, not necessarily related to each bite you take.  I wouldn't look into it much unless it keeps on happening, then keep a record to look for dietary patterns. It may be something completely different, like maybe there's an extra burp she's trying to get out, or my babe was crying the other day because part of her umbilical stump was poking into her skin and scratching her.

Ahhh cabbage! Yes that makes sense. And I'm not stressing abt it just trying get an idea of the cause and make note of it so if it keeps happening we will know.

I've also noticed strangely enough that she seems more gassy when I start her feed on the right side instead of starting on the left and then switching to the right... Btw my right side always seems alot fuller than the left. So that's why I'm wondering abt the fore vs. hind milk.
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I am so excited to report that Ginny has now had two nursing sessions without the use of a nipple shield. I nearly cried when she first latched on. This is huge for me.


I'm going to have dh inspect my staples soon. I'm slightly worried there is a spot that is messed up. He's knowledgeable about this stuff so I'm hoping he thinks I'm fine. No infections please!
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Its been 15 days now since I've had Harlow smile.gif she is doing great. Loves sleeping with me in my bed. She naps in her crib, but that's about it. I feel more comfortable with her right next to me anyways. I never thought I would be this comfortable with cosleeping. I guess each baby brings its own suprises (older DD didn't start cosleeping with me til she was about 7 months and occasionally does it now, at 6 and a half.)

She's had some gassy issues, but I have been using gripe water and it works wonders on her. Its all natural, which is awesome!

I'm doing much better. For the first 7 days or so, I broke down at least 3 times a day. I was afraid it was turning into PPD, but its eased up and seems like normal baby blues now. I go for a 2 week check up Friday to see how my incision is healing and have my 6 week checkup in a month. Harlow has her 2 week checkup tomorrow.
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Eleanor's just over 2 weeks an doing pretty well.  She's taken up this bizarre binge-feeding routine though; 3 times a day she'll totally pig out- within the course of an hour, she'll nurse for 20-25 minutes AND have 6 ounces in a  bottle, AND still want more. It's crazy, but I'm trying to feed on demand so I'm going along with it, and she's not spitting up so I guess she can handle it.  She does it early afternoon right before a long nap, right before bed time, and once overnight. So it's great that it holds her over for some nice stretches of sleep. But holy cow, I don't know where she's hiding it all in her belly! She does eat plenty of other times throughout the day too, so it's not like those are her only feedings.

She's much lower maintenance than my boys too; doesn't want a pacifier, doesn't care if she's swaddled or not, and doesn't poop every hour!  It's refreshing to just hold a content baby!

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BeanBean: I came across this article recently and it's fantastic!!!! http://thefunnyshapedwoman.blogspot.com/2011/05/foremilk-and-hindmilk-in-quest-of.html?m=1

 

We are SO glad to be home! We spent Monday night thru this morning in the hospital. Zack had high bilirubin and was under the lights for a while. I am so glad that we were treated with respect, even though he was born at home. I am exhausted but feeling ok. I am SO glad I have my placenta capsules! I really think they helped me deal with the stress fairly well. Zack's skin was freaking out from the lights, tape, etc (stress too, I'm sure) but it's calming down now, too. I'm glad cuz he has such lovely, nice skin and it didn't bother him before at all. He has a red bottom, too. I'm not sure if it's from all the bilirubin he's been pooping out or from the Pamper's diaper that we had to borrow from the hospital the first night we were there. I'm just putting the awesome salve on it that I've been using for my own bottom (TMI? sorry) Hopefully it'll clear up fast.

 

Nursing is going beautifully! I was shocked that the first doctor we saw at the hospital was a DO and she immediately suggested supplementing formula or an IV. We declined, of course. It was a little annoying having to keep the nurses updated with every single feeding. I understand that they wanted to make sure he's getting enough, but isn't there something to be said for a mother's instinct? And what about all those wet and poopy diapers? He was back to his birth weight on Monday when we arrived at the hospital, as well.

 

I'm surprised that my breasts just started leaking on Monday, too. It doesn't bother me, I'm just surprised that it took that long for the leakage to start.

 

I'm trying to think of short activities to do with DD to spend some extra time with her, while making time for nursing whenever Zack wants to. She had a hard couple days when we were in the hospital and I wanna make it up to her, if I can. Any ideas?

 

I slept from 2-7 (with one waking to nurse and change a diaper) but I am so going back to bed now. Here's hoping I'll feel more like myself in the morning! Sorry for the rambling. My brain is still only half-functioning. I'm so glad my mom is coming on Saturday! She's staying for a week to help out. DH has been AMAZING these first days, but he goes back to work on Sunday.

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Glad that you had an overall good experience with the hospital Ruth! What an ordeal!!

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So I noticed a huge change last night in both mine and DD2s level of gassiness. It was nearly gone for both. I was able to nurse her about 1hr before bed and then just before we laid down I offered her the boob again and she took it (w/o shield!) for a short amount of time. I told DH it was a top up. We all laid down around 9pm and *I* woke up around 1:30 bewildered that she was still happily sleeping. Of course she started to stir enough that I decided to feed her then and we changed her diaper. Then we all slept again until I woke up at 5:30a and fed her. The whole night there was no crying from her at all, even during the diaper change. I told DH I was shocked! But I certainly hope this routine sticks around. The sleep was glorious. This LO has been really easy on us so far... I'm wondering when it's going to get hard. LOL.

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Night 2. And DH is tired. And anxious. ECT. And I sure as hell don't have the energy to help him!

but I don't know what to do!?
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Night 2. And DH is tired. And anxious. ECT. And I sure as hell don't have the energy to help him!

but I don't know what to do!?

 

What is ECT?

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