My 7 year old always gets silly and tries to entertain adult company that comes by.
Last night we were talking about it, and he stated that all we do with company is talk, and no one plays with him, so that's frustrating for him.
I pointed out that for adults, talking is fun and we need that conversation with other adults. I suggested he could join in or draw at the table while we talk, but he's not interested in that. He actually wants them to play directly with him. ....even our one friend who stopped by played the recorder with him and allowed him to dress her up in a few superhero things, but he tried and tried to impress her and grab her attention most of the visit. We drew the line at noisey things that interupted the conversation.
We left things at that we'd both think about it and come back to it tomorrow.
I'm wondering if I'm missing something here. Is there some clear statement that can clearly identify the difference between adult company coming for the purpose of conversation (while still acknowledging DS1's presense) and that an age-appropriate friend may be a better suited playmate? Is it worth explicitly teaching manners and host-appropriate behaviour and expecting that of him?
He likes knowing what's expected of him in certain situations and what appropriate options are. ...maybe he can offer 2 or 3 things/suggested activities politely to a gues (e.g. "would you like to see my lego?", "would you care to play the recorder with me?") then need to leave it alone and he can go off if he's not interested in adult conversation?