So first off I think I should say that I am currently driving an hour and 30 minutes to the nearest hospital/OB office that offers midwife care. I like them to an extent. They don't seem "as bad" as most but that's as far as my love goes. I am very happy with them for prenatal care though.
Something that I've been considering since the beginning is a home birth. H thinks we are too far away from the nearest hospital with a maternity ward. It's about 40 minutes away which stinks because we are like .5 miles away from a hospital without a maternity ward. I'm not sure in case of an emergency if just A HOSPITAL works or if it has to have a birthing location. Anyways. We talked about it and another point of contention for him is cost of a home birth. I've heard recently that a lot of MW have sliding scales and considering that the price that was quoted to me in the beginning included all my prenatal appointments... I'm wondering if I could get a quote for just the birth and probably one visit beforehand.
Another thing is my mom has been having dreams lately of her delivering my baby. She told me that she was freaking out because she just knew (even though she didn't want to) that she would be the one attending me during my birth. It's not something that I wanted in a hospital situation. I only wanted DH and myself in the room because my mom hates hospitals more than I do and it would be too much of the same energy. But, if she was with my at home I would be very happy with this. She expressed an interest in learning midwifery so I bought her "Spiritual Midwifery" to get her started.
Even though animals are different than humans... my mom has been breeding dogs for 30 years, has bred horses, and had 5 natural childbirths herself. I'm starting to think that if my mom read a few books about humans I would feel pretty safe with her experience and my own intuition. She's slightly nervous about the idea but has surprisingly be getting a lot of positive feedback from her "puppy people" when she asks if it's a super crazy idea. I'm only 24 weeks so we have a while to let it simmer.
I guess what I am asking is if this is a completely terrible idea: to do a UC with my mom for my first child. If I should start getting info from MWs for backups. Or if I'm too far away and should just bite the bullet and have my husband be a watchdog at a hospital that I feel "meh" about as oppsosed to horrible dread.