Jessmn...sorry to say it will probably never go back to pre-baby "normal" without surgery. I know that's not what anybody wants to hear. Some moms "snap back" depending on genetics and such...but I imagine evn with excellent skin care and good genes that with a twin pregnancy that's really rare.
Jessmn, even after I had DD and got BELOW my pre pregnancy weight, I had a pooch I didn't have before her. I never got it to go away probably not the thing someone wants to hear, but it's the truth. I know some women get that 6 pack Victoria Secret body after baby, but pretty sure it's the minority.
I love you both for telling the truth! I've had the same experience. You know what I hate? All those pins on pinterest that advertise post partum "get your pre-baby body" work-out routines... and then show a picture of a woman who has almost certainly NOT had a baby. It's makes me angry for two reasons- #1, most young mothers do not realize that their bodies are most likely not going to look like that no matter what they do (there are exceptions, of course) and it makes them feel bad about themselves and #2. most of the advertised routines are actually very bad for moms to do.
It's hard to get used to what I call my "mom body", but I wouldn't trade it for the world. It comes with becoming a mother, and my children (and husband) are the best thing that has ever happened to me. So if I have to have some "ugly" skin, so be it :)
Jess- I can't help with the skin, but if you have a major pooch after the babies are born, it could be something called a diastasis recti. It's when the ab muscles are split down the middle and don't hold your insides back as tightly as before. Most women experience this during pregnancy and heal in time on their own, but some do not. I highly recommend checking out Julie Tupler's book/dvd "Lose your mummy tummy". She explains the whole thing, tells you what to do to avoid making it worse (NO CRUNCHES or SIT-UPS!), and has simple transverse exercises you can do to bring the muscles back together. You can google her name and find her website.
My friend had twins and you would have never guessed she even had a baby. I didn't know her until about 2 years after she had them so I don't know how long it took for her to get that way. would guess it mostly would have to do with genetics. Her sister is DH's cousin's wife and we saw them at Christmas 2 weeks after she had their daughter and she was back in her prepregnancy clothes so maybe it's just them.
My cousin didn't even get a single stretchmark on her belly with her twin boys...she did get them on her thighs though (only the tiny white ones). She bounced back pretty fast, although I have never seen her bare belly...but she looks great clothes. . She has always been tiny though. My other cousin who had twins about 2 years ago has more of a pooch but started out more "average" sized. She still looks AWESOME though.
However, it definitely seems more dfficult to deal with the skin aspect rather than the muscle/fat pooch. That has been my experience as well. I completely agree with the belly binder rec...wonderful tool for helping your body return to a comfortable state and helps with diastasis too. There is only so much you can do about the skin (I describe mine as a ground beef belly when I squish it) but you can certainly impact the muscles and even the fat layer!
Buuuuuut, don't be discouraged if it doesn't go back quickly, or at all, or the way you imagined. IMO my mummy tummy helped mature me...I know that sounds weird but it did. (Among other things....I got married at 18, had my first living baby at 20...but obviously few of my peers were in the same place in life as I was). It is so worth every change you go through. Our bodies were designed to do this, and while society makes it more difficult to accept the changes as beautiful (meaning it takes all that much more effort on our part to change our mindset), it helps me to remember that society also doesn't place much value on the family, but for me that is a priority....so it becomes easier to see it all as part of a gorgoeus big picture.
Thanks, all! I know it won't be the same, but I was hoping for some sense of "this is me" that I recognize. Right now I feel so taken over. I'm going to be 28 at the end of this month so I don't know if that qualifies as young anymore! I was thin before babies so I don't know if that will make a difference, I'm thinking that makes it worse because a smaller amount of skin had to stretch soooo much. I look at my belly and I don't even know HOW it got so big.
I will definitely have to look into the belly binder and the proper exercises for post-baby. I didn't even realize the abs could be splitting down the middle...I mean, I definitely wondered where my abs went, but I didn't really think about THAT!
My husband's cousin said she didn't get any stretch marks with hers and I have seen lots of pictures of her in bikinis and she got her figure back, but we'll see. Unfortunately I'm not related to her, darn! :)
Everyone has all these great pictures of their bellies while pregnant, and no one ever has pictures post-baby. Not that you want to see bellies when you could be looking at BABIES, but it seems like a forgotten about topic. I hope I am not setting myself up for disappointment. :/